The Naked Blog

From child to adult, from blushing and shy to delivering seminars in front of 100's of nudists. My name is Abby Turner, I am retired but continue to council people through seminars and private sessions.

My original blog will be posted here as well as new posts because I believe the information is important and well worth the time and energy. Original posting dates may not stay the same but may reflect the date I moved the post. I've been asked not to delete my original blog, sending it to the dark, nowhere void of the internet space; that being said, I will move the information here.

Please bare with me, it will be very time consuming and emotional at times. I will also include Lisa's posts as I believe her posts were and still are very valuable and informative to common issues, topics and discussions.


Changing Your Lifestyle

I have received many emails asking “how do I start?”.
There are several ways to start experimenting, to try it out.  The first way is normally not done and can have a negative result rather than a positive reaction.
The first and most obvious way is to just jump right in.  Look on the internet for nudist resort nearest you, call for a reservation if needed and go.  Once there, do as they do.  Strip down and head to the beach, pool or whatever amenities the resort has to offer.  This takes a lot of courage and can stop someone from actually trying and enjoying the experience.
Here is what I suggest for both men and women.  Start slow.  After showering/bathing take your time before getting dressed.  Don’t rush.  Dry off, hang up your towel, do your hair, makeup, shave, brush your teeth and then go pick out your clothes to put on.  You should still be naked at this time.  No, not even the towel should be wrapped around you… remember, I said ‘hang up your towel’.
Still doing good?  Or is it time to put clothes on?  Do as much as you can until you are use to the feeling and knowing you are walking around naked.  Then increase your activity before getting dressed.  Staying to the bedroom will make for an easier adjustment.  Most people feel secure in their bedroom which will help minimize any stress or comfort issues.
Another good start for trying nudism, is sleeping naked.  You are in the security of your room, covered in blankets and you are comfortable.  Research has shown that 8 out of 10 who tried sleeping the nude for the first time, find it more comfortable than with clothes.  Think about it.  How many times have you rolled over in bed only to have to re-adjust your pj’s because they didn't roll with you? Now you have to lift this body part or that, tug on your pj’s and then settle down and get comfortable again.  Not if you aren't wearing any pj’s.  This same study showed that 9 out of 10 people sleeping in the nude fall asleep faster and sleep more soundly and feel better rested when they wake up in the morning.
So, try sleeping in the nude.  When you get up, don’t grab the bathrobe.  If you have a bathroom connected to your room or if you live alone, climb out of bed, walk to the bathroom and start the shower.  Not counting the time you are sleeping (6 – 8 hours?) look at all the time you have spent nude. Below are average times depending on if you are male/female and what you actually do for each.
Brushing your teeth: 5 minutes
Doing your hair:  10 – 30 minutes
Shaving (face): 10 minutes
Doing makeup:  10 – 15 minutes
Making the bed:  5 minutes
Picking up your room: 15 minutes
Checking cell phone messages:  5 minutes
Checking email: 10 – 15 minutes
Answering email: 15 – 30 minutes
See, you have already spent at least an hour in the nude that you normally would not have.  And it feels great right?
Having a lazy day or done working for the day? Climb in bed and read a good book.  If you are a woman, don’t let the sheet sliding down and exposing you be a worry.  Read your book.  Resist the temptation to keep pulling the covers over you as you read.  Grab that glass of water or wine as your read, but don’t grab the sheet.  Leave it, let it do it’s own thing.
As you can see, there is a slow progressing of not only being nude while you do regular activities but resist the need to pull a bathrobe closed, pull up the sheets, pull down a t-shirt.  This will help you not only be comfortable and confident about yourself but about others as well.  There is no shame in being you!
Now it’s time to try the living room.  Go sit on the couch or in your favorite chair.  Need to check the news? Watch your favorite show.  So do it…. in the nude.
Have to let the dog or cat out into the backyard?  So do it.  Open the door as you normally would if you were clothed.  Please note I did say ‘backyard’.  If your house faces a street and there is a chance someone will see you as they walk by, it’s not a good idea to stand at the doorway all exposed.   The police could be knock on your door soon if you do.
Not everyone fits into the mold of a model.  In my opinion, most female models are way to skinny, un-natural, and unrealistic.  Being a nudist helps with self-confidence, learning and social stills.
Hugs and kisses, everyone!


Internet and Nudists

The internet has of course both helped and hurt the Nudists by informing people the way of nudist lifestyle.  This has been both good and bad although the good has far out reached the bad, the bad has been obviously labor intense to delete, respond and/or make the bad misinformation and attitude disappear.

The bad of course being the people (sorry mostly men), trying to get in contact with the nudists through the internet for things other than nudist lifestyle questions, resort questions etc. Not all the contact has been sex related and it takes several emails to make the men understand being nude is not sex related.  There have been a few times when a well place letter or email to these men and their internet provider was required; unfortunately we had to take extreme measures to do so, but we had to.

The internet has been a excellent source for sharing information easier whether it has been in regards to questions about the lifestyle or advertising for the nudist resorts.  Of course one draw back is when someone does a search regarding nudism, they have to wade through all of the porn that is using "nudist, nude sunbathing, nudist resort" and other key phrases to get the porn site in most searches done on the internet.

I have literally thousands of emails regarding nudism.  Most of these letters I have responded to both directly and in posted the questions and responses on my blog.  As you know I am still in the process of moving my blog here, so be sure to "follow" my blog for all updated posts.

I have recently been in a mind frying dilemma.  As some of you know my niece was posting her point of views on my blog; giving a teenage angle to very popular questions.  Since her passing, I have been struggling as to whether or not I should re-post her originals here.  The question is still there, it's up in the air.... Input is welcome if you so desire.

Hugs and kisses to you all.

Lecture Discussion–What is Norm?

This weekend was a 3 day seminar with class credit given to University students.  The most active and interested topics was: “What is normal for a nudist?”

The class room discussion quickly lead to comparing lifestyles of the nude and non-nude.  The discussion was active not just by male but also females and of all ages.

First and foremost the topic was expressed as meaning more to females than males.  After a short question period asking for a show of hands dealing with comfort ability of being naked in front of others the results were surprising to many of the students.

Males would feel more comfortable being naked in front of women compared to females being more comfortable being naked in front of other females.

Most of the females admitted they like being naked when by themselves or wearing skimpy clothing in front of other females.  Most admitted they would rather be naked instead of wearing the skimpy cloths but thought it make other females uncomfortable.  No one of course having the courage to say to one another that they would prefer to be naked.

Females also said they would feel comfortable being naked in front of males so long as they understood it was not about sex but about being comfortable and enjoying their true self.  Males on the other hand said they would not be comfortable being naked in front of other males and especially not in mixed company.  Yes, getting a erection in front of mixed company was a major concern because the males thought they would be compared to other males in the room to see how one “measures up”.

All of these issues related 100% to the mentality and understanding of what nudism is really about; being one’s self, comfortable, nonjudgmental, and mature.

By the end of the lecture, 100% of the females (of all ages 18 – 58) were attending the lecture in the nude.  Only 31% of the males attended the lecture in the nude.  The other males said they did not feel comfortable being naked in front of other males.

Take it for what it is worth, which is a lot, females if honest with themselves and willing to try nudism, are more comfortable regarding the nudism lifestyle.