The Naked Blog

From child to adult, from blushing and shy to delivering seminars in front of 100's of nudists. My name is Abby Turner, I am retired but continue to council people through seminars and private sessions.

My original blog will be posted here as well as new posts because I believe the information is important and well worth the time and energy. Original posting dates may not stay the same but may reflect the date I moved the post. I've been asked not to delete my original blog, sending it to the dark, nowhere void of the internet space; that being said, I will move the information here.

Please bare with me, it will be very time consuming and emotional at times. I will also include Lisa's posts as I believe her posts were and still are very valuable and informative to common issues, topics and discussions.


Unwanted Advances

While visiting at a nudist resort in Florida, a “gentleman” approached me, asking if he could sit and talk.  I, of course said yes, so the gentleman sat and visited for about an hour.

The conversation was the normal chit-chat, name, where from, what do I do for a living, likes, dislikes, etc.  All seemed good, normal and actually quite pleasant.  Then came the advances.  I explained (politely) that I was not interested, but thanks for asking.  This however did not stop him.  Next came the casual touching, he slide over, leg against leg, then soon a shoulder touching or him telling a joke and lightly touch my arm as if we were old friends.

I stressed to him again that I was not interested.  I explained that his behavior was not appreciated nor was it appropriate.   Then he said the all time, over the top pick up line that always makes women jump into men’s arms; “oh come one, you know you want it”.  I informed him, his actions have gone way beyond reasonable or acceptable and I was going to management to have him taken care of.

He, of course got a little upset.  Okay, extremely upset.  He informed me, that I was the issue.  I… Yes, I was the issue, a tease, a slut and a bitch.  He went on to say that I needed to change my ways and stop being a hypocrite because “everyone knows the real reason to come to a nudist resort”.

I with my ultimate wisdom (meaning smarta@@ attitude) replied with a simple but subtle comment.  “Sir, I am reporting you to resort management.  I am requesting you leave me alone.  People like you give nudism a bad rap, and lastly, I am not attracted to you; your personality nor your body.  Sir, I come here to the resort to relax, not to hit on men and definitely not to be hit on by men”.

I have used this experience in my seminars and classes.  And there is always at least one person that responds with: 

Q:  If you don’t go to a nudist resort to “get lucky” then why do you go?

A:  Why do you go to the beach or a ski resort?  The reasons for doing things are not any different just because you are doing it in the nude.  Yes, some people go to clothing required beach to find a date, meet new people for a relationship.  Some may do that at a nudist resort or beach, but it is only a few that are that way.  To a nudist, a place where we can go and be nude, do normal things such as sunbath, swim, play volleyball, meet like minded people, or just relax; all in the nude, that is why nudists go to nude facilities.

Yes, it really is that simple.  Most people discussing or thinking about nudism, over think, over analyze or won’t think outside of the box.  For many, nudism is not a natural concept for their mind.  In most seminars, I do have to break the concept down to very basic thought processes to get around preconceived notions, emotions and ideals.

Have a great day!


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