In the Shower

After working out with my niece, we headed for the shower. The shower of course is much like ones at most high schools; a community shower that can probably hold up to 15 or 20 people at one time. A couple of ladies were discussing if it was appropriate for a friend to be showering with their daughter (age 10). Of course both ladies thought that was pushing the "limits" as far as a mother or father showering with a teenager.

My niece, Lisa (13), asked the ladies a blunt and very pointed question. "Why does age have anything to do with showering together?"
The two women of course stared at her blankly when one spoke asking if she would be comfortable showering with her mom or dad at the age she is now.  Lisa responded explaining, that she would feel more uncomfortable showering with strangers than with a parent. "Besides" Lisa pointed to me, "I'm showering with Aunt and two ladies I don't even know".

That ended the debate immediately and the two ladies agreed that it would be more uncomfortable with strangers, yet here we all are in the shower together. One of the ladies smiled and said "you are a very smart young lady".

Need more be said? What about showering with her dad?  Well, Lisa does. When we go to swimming pools at one of the resorts, we are all naked. So what?

And there are times when we have all walked in on each other either showering, getting dressed (if clothes are required for something), this is all a "big deal" because of the way people are brought up. For a nudist, there is often the question of... "What's the big deal? Is there a problem?"

An Apology For Being Nude

Although the title of this post maybe somewhat miss-leading, be sure and understand, at no time will there be an apology for be apart of a nudist life style. It is a personal choice that people make about how they want to live their life.

I receive emails time and time again (almost every day) from people either:
1. Saying how sinful being nude is, 2. Innuendos of having sex.
These people do not get it. Being nude is not against God; no where in the bible is there anything said about having to cover up, NO WHERE. Look it up, its not there. The discussion is about group sex or the like. It has been the thinking of the ministry that has added the train of thought that being nude is wrong or sinful. Again, being nude is NOT an invitation to have sex.

Innuendos of having sex. Being a Nudist does not mean a person is always out to have sex. Unrelated issues. It really is that simple. It is the mentality of people that has made nudity sex related. You can have sex without taking all of your cloths off. Just like you don't have to turn out the lights to have sex. But you do have to take your cloths off to be nude (obviously) and you don't have to have sex or even think about having sex just because you are naked.

You're naked when you shower; do you always have sex in the shower? No.
A majority of people sleep in the nude (ages from 5 to 100+); are they having sex every night? No.

Since a very young age most people are told to cover up or you can't run around naked, it's not acceptable. Yet in school during PE all the guys shower together after class as do all the girls, but this is considered acceptable. So if that is acceptable why is lying around a pool not acceptable? At a time in their lives when teenage hormones are running full force, we are pushing boys into showers -- being naked -- and the same with girls, can their immaturity really handle that after all these years of being told that being naked is okay only if you are in private?
What affects does this have on these teenagers mental growth?

Again, if it is okay to be naked around people you barely know as a teenager in a shower, why is it not acceptable to be naked at the beach or by a pool or in your backyard or at a resort?

Abby

Being Nude Is Not About Sex

When will people get it? Being naked is NOT about sex. Walking around, lying around or playing games while naked is not an invitation for sex. If you think being naked is about having sex, you're wrong and you don't get it. That is the mentality that has kept being nude so much a taboo.

Nudist Questions

I have been answering questions regarding nudism for quite some time now.  I will be posting the questions and answers here on my blog.  I will not be providing any information regarding the individual that has emailed me questions.  If you have a question feel free to email me or post in the comments section of this post.
I will email you my answer as quickly as I am able.  No subject is off limits, ask what you will, just be honest with yourself and don't flame me if you disagree.  I will provide any research results I have plus my opinion if you are interested.

Abby.

Nude Pics

When I first started this blog, it was an effort to maximize the exposure to the true facts of research and studies performed for many years regarding nudism. In doing so, I have created a small community gathering of parents and their children and young adults (females and males) that have consistently thanked me for answering their questions with facts, examples and my opinion. In an effort to help people understand the nudist lifestyle I have not and will not start my own dot com community, charging membership fees. I am available via email, which I am happy to answer any and all questions.  Nor will I post nude pictures of anyone adult or otherwise to increase my readership.  Don't ask, don't beg, don't period! I will not post or send pics; period! Nudism is not about sex. It is away of life building family bonding, confidence and strong self assured people.

Abby.

Nudists, Family Bonding

Family bonding is not an issue for most nudist families. Few studies have been done on the closeness of families participating in the nudist lifestyle however there have been volumes upon volumes of studies as the benefits of a tight, knit family bond. All studies have agreed, a close family bond produces emotionally strong and confident people. Family bond study has provided results that were not surprising after one considers the results of studies researching intelligence, sexuality, confidence and successfulness.

Questionnaire and results:

1. Age (50/50 m/f): 1,500 4 – 10    2,800 11 – 14    5,700 15 - 18    
   
2. Do you feel comfortable in the nudist community/lifestyle?    100% yes
   
3. Are you nudists at home?        100% yes 60% all the time 33% mostly 7% among family only
   
4. Are you active when nude?    100% yes 65% all the time 30% mostly 5% sometimes
   
5. Do you have a close relationship with parents?    89% very close    9% close    2% so-so
   
6. Do you have a close relationship w/ brothers/sisters?     90% very close    10% close
   
7. Have your parents told you to ask any question?    100% yes
   
8. Do you believe you can ask "any" question?     99% yes    1% unsure
   
9. Do you feel comfortable discussing "any" question?     98% yes        1% unsure    1% no
   
10. Have you ever not received an answer from your parents?     100% no
    
11. Have you talked about sex with your parents?    100% yes
    
12. Were you comfortable with the discussion?        95% yes     1% unsure    4% afterwards yes
    
13. Do you feel comfortable talking to adults?        98% all the time        2% most of the time
    
14. Do you feel comfortable talking to children?        100% all the time
    
15. Can you discuss "anything" with anyone?        98% all the time        2% most of the time
    
16. Do you make friends easily?    89% all the time        10% most of the time    1% unsure
    
17. Do your friends know you are a nudist?    80% all         15% most    5% a few
    
18. Do you think your friends should be nudists?     100% yes
    
19. Do you think everyone should be nudists?    98% yes        2% unsure
    
20. Are you sexually active with yourself?     6% 4 – 10    82% 11 – 14 99% 15 – 18
    
21. Have you had sex with someone?        >0.5% 4 – 10    2% 11 – 14    3% 15 - 18
    
22. Are you sexually active with someone?    >0.5% 4 - 10    >1% 11 – 14     2% 15 – 18
    
23. Have you done illegal drugs?    100% no     4 – 10    >0.5% yes 11 – 14    >0.5% yes 15 – 18
    
24. Have you drunk alcohol?         100% no 4 – 10    >0.5% yes 11 – 14     >0.5% yes 15 – 18
    
25. Do you smoke?            100% no 4 – 10     100% no 11 – 14        >0.5% yes 15 – 18
    

 

Abby.

Nudists Do Better Academically

Academics can also be given as evidence and benefits of the nudist lifestyle. Smith, Stewart, Hardy and Turner research in the mid 1970's regarding academics, children and said learning rates produced exact results revealing astonishing and unexpected findings. The results were of children with extraordinarily high above average academic levels in all course studies; not just a select few subjects. Past and present research has shown Math and Science courses showed girls with higher scores than boys. History and Business courses showed boys with higher scores than girls.

However, the individuals that showed the highest above average scores in all subjects made up a small percentage of the case study individuals (approx. 5%). Further investigation revealed 65% of the 5% case study subjects belonged to individuals that were either frequent or total participates of the nudist lifestyle and communities. Continued study and research has been on going with numbers showing consistent evidence supporting original studies. Ten years later since the original study, majority of the highest above average students (approx. 75%) were exposed to the nudist lifestyle. In all case studies the top 5% of above average students in the nation were studied. Although the original subjects (students) were still being monitored, their statistics were not included in the phase of the study under discussion.

As memberships to nudist and naturist communities and lifestyles have grown, so has the percentage of above average test subjects. The 1985 study showed further increase of percentile from 75% to 95% of above average students participated in the nudist lifestyle. Test subjects monitored from the 1970 study continued to perform well and stayed in the higher top 1% of above average students.

As a general consensus from the academic community, the psychology and behavioral sciences communities have concluded no fault of the original findings and subsequent studies have portrayed an accurate foundation for findings as sound. In other words, due to many issues mostly stemming from self confidence, strong ability to focus and close relationship with parents, children and adults raised in a nudist lifestyle are more intelligent or more focused academicly.

It is never to late for a change in lifestyle.

Abby.

Health Benefits of Nudist Lifestyle

So long as nudists take precautions, this lifestyle is healthier than "normal" living. The human body requires vitamin C and D (as well as other vitamins) to stay healthy. Both of these vitamins are absorbed by exposure to the sun. The average non nudist leaves approximately 5% to 50% of their body exposed to the sun hence absorbing considerably less vitamins than nudists do. With proper lotions a nudist is not likely to incur any more shun damage than the average person that is not a nudist. With the constant use of lotions, nudists tend to be better protected from the sun than the average person is. This is due to knowledge and understanding the effects of their decision and actions.

Another health benefit is de-toxing one's body. The human body has thousands of pores all over our body. These pores are meant to absorb good vital and needed vitamins and to allow the release of bad or used toxins from our system. If the human body is 90% covered 80 – 90% of the time, how does the body release toxins? This can not be done efficiently or effectively. People believe clothing absorbing sweat is good, but it's not. Sweat is meant to cool the body when needed. Allowing clothing to wick away the cooling sweat, the body does not cool properly. Medical studies confirm, people who are practicing nudists 75% or more of the time, are healthier and their bodies retain less harmful toxins.

Physically fit. This lifestyle is not only for the slim and trim or muscular. Evidence shows the slightly overweight to "obese" nudist have experienced dramatic weight loss due to an increase of activity largely explained by becoming secure with their appearance resulting in the confidence to socialize more. Nudist communities/resorts have a full range of activities for all nudists to participate including volleyball, horse shoes, fitness rooms as well as classes, swimming and water games, hiking or nature trails; the same activities as clothed society has to offer.

Abby.

Original Posts

As I move my blog to blogger.com, I am finding that I am not changing the date to the original posting date but rather having the date set as I currently re-post. This is turning out to be a lot more work than I speculated to begin with.

That being said, I am no longer trying to keep up with the original posting dates, but will try to include them in the posts.

Abby.

Questionnaire

I have been asked if I would post my research questionnaire on my blog for everyone to see and contribute if they so desire. I am working on having a submittable form set up for anyone who is interested to submit the information.

I can tell you now (as I do when handing out the questionnaire) answer all questions honestly to the best of your ability. Research has already provided evidence that members of the nudist lifestyle are 97% honest when submitting a questionnaire such as mine. Of course there is also a 2% margin of error. Non nudist members are only 65% honest when submitting a questionnaire such as mine. There are several contributing factors: 1. lack of self confidence. 2. concern of what others will think. 3. shame or embarrassment factor. 4. shy or introvert.

All I ask is if you are going to submit or make a statement regarding anything on my site, be honest not only with me, but most importantly, be honest with yourself.

Abby.