Bless the Queen’s Estate Beach Now Open

Below is an article published Oct. 13th.  I hope you take the time to read it carefully.  The article is about the re-opening of what had become known as a nudist beach in the UK.  It was closed because of a small handful of deviants, pervs and sloths with no respect.

I have been to the beach.  It is a lovely beach and often heavily populated with nudists and naturalists.  However, there was a group of people conducting themselves in adult behavior with no respect for others.  Having sex in the middle of the beach, propositioning tours and regular beach goers as they walked by attempting to enjoy what they thought was a safe haven for nudity.

Because of the select few and their behavior the beach was closed; understandable so.  The beach, much to most delight, has been re-opened for nudists and naturalists.  The fear of course the bad element will return to the beach practicing elicit behavior and once again ruining the beach for others.

As I have said in the past and almost everyday in emails and blog posts…. nudism is NOT about sex.  It is about living a life clothes free.  Whether you are a nudist or not, it is NOT appropriate  to have sex, engage in sex acts or proposition beach goers.

I believe the preferred solution is to have law enforcement patrol the beach and arrest those practicing elicit behavior.  The word will get out; the beach is for nudists and naturalists not the lowly, morality lacking people using the beach to copulate.  It is people like these that give nude beaches, nude resorts and nudism in general a bad name.

Enough of my rant.  Here’s the link: http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-2442382/The-Queens-estate-reverses-ban-nudists-famous-beach-imposed-complaints-haven-swingers-perverts.html

Have a great day!

Abby

Types Of Nudist Resorts

I have had several questions regarding the type of resorts, beaches and communities.  This post is to help distinguish the different types of nude “communities” and acceptable behavior of each.

First, Nude resorts.  A resort is just that, a resort where people go and enjoy a nude lifestyle within the confines of the resort.  Resorts are found all over the world and of several types or “star rating” much like a common resort.  As a general rule there are a few categories of resorts.   Please keep in mind these are generalized and often are referred to by different names or “titles”.

1. Family Friendly Resorts.  These resorts are becoming more and more common.  FFR’s are just that.  The are family friendly and are accessed by all ages; normally 17 years of age and younger must be accompanied by a parent or legal guardian.

--- Standards of behavior are that which is contusive to family gathers.  Any open/public sexual activity is forbidden.  This is a family friendly resort, get a room.   As with most resorts the display of a erection is the biggest concern.  Some resorts require an erection to be covered until there is no erection, but this is not necessarily the rule at all family resorts.  There maybe exceptions to this rule (if there is such a rule).  The exception may exclude boys at a certain age not to cover up since they are in the middle of maturing and have less control of the situation than grown males.  If exposing your children to viewing an erection is a concern, check the resort rules before booking your stay at the resort.

2. Adults Only Resorts.  AOR’s may include couples only resorts.  These resorts are not meant for children under the age of 18 or 21 in some cases.  This is not for any other reason other than, the resort does not want to be held liable for adult nudity around under aged children.  Some of these resorts require all adults to be in a relationship and there at the resort with their partner.  Now, how some are handling the “gay issue” varies from one resort to the next.  In some resorts any female can visit accompanied or unaccompanied however, been maybe required to check in with a female, not by themselves or with another male.  Again, this could fall into how each individual resort handles gay couples or individuals in general.  Better safe than sorry, call ahead and get a copy of the rules or ask point blank, don’t beat around the bush and ask!

3.  Swingers Nude Resorts.  SNR’s are for adults only but do not confuse them with an AOR.  This is a lifestyle all of it’s own, not only a nudist lifestyle but a swinger’s lifestyle as well.  It is common place in a SNR for there to be open/public sexual encounters throughout the resort.  This type of resorts are not for everyone and by no means should be used as a standard practice for the nudist lifestyle.  SNRs are for adults interested in “swinging” which is commonly said of those that swap partners, have multiple partners (at one time) or trade partners for a given length of time.

I hope this clears up some of the misunderstandings regarding Nudist Resorts and what is expected behavior.  No matter which type of resort you are interested in, you should call and get the resort rules or at least ask in a plain and easy to understand question regarding your concerns.

Hope this helps!

Abby

Nudism & Erections

Q: “I have 3 children, 1 son and 2 daughters.  My husband and I have raised our children as nudists since our son was 5.  He is now in his early teens and it is obvious that he is more mature than as a parent, I tend to accept.  Recently he has said he didn’t want to participate in the nudist lifestyle anymore.  At first when asked he would not say why only that he didn’t want to.  I believe he is still interested because while in his room he is nude.  Recently I walked into his room and he was nude, so I asked again why he didn’t want to participate with the rest of the family.  He finally answered.  He said he cannot control himself from getting an erection and it was embarrassing to him when he is naked in front of everyone.  What do I say?”

A: First, this is very common among males in general.  This is something he needs to understand.  He is not the only one this happens to.  Your son will learn to control the timing of his erection to an extent, but that won’t be for some time.

Second, he can try these tips to help make his erection diminish when it occurs.  A cold shower often helps.  If you are at a lake or river, going into the water may help because of the wet and cold water or just to get his mind focused on something else.  The last will help him “grow” mentally as this is something most males don’t learn until later in life.

Third, cover up with a towel if the above don’t work or not available.  At all resorts, a person is required to carry a towel at all times to sit on when using chairs, benches etcetera.  He may want to carry an extra towel so he has one to sit on and one to cover up with if needed.

Forth, DO NOT make issue if he has to excuse himself to use a shower or jump into the lake.  Make sure he knows that if he says he is heading to the water and will be right back, it is okay and that you will not question it.

Fifth, this is something that I don’t recommend as he will discover this soon enough if he hasn’t already.   However, this maybe a good time to explain to him about masturbation if you haven’t already.  Masturbation is not wrong, it is not bad, it is not immoral.  It does not lessen one’s values.  I don’t recommend using this as a method to make his erection go away because you don’t want to mix nudity with sex.  This may be confusing to him unless you and your husband have gone to get lengths regarding the differences…. nudity does not mean sex…

Your son needs to know that what is happening to him is natural, is not cause to be embarrassed and means he is growing into a man.

I do encourage parents to read my blog and suggest this can be good reading material for your children.

Abby

Nudists, Family Bonding

Family bonding is not an issue for most nudist families. Few studies have been done on the closeness of families participating in the nudist lifestyle however there have been volumes upon volumes of studies as the benefits of a tight, knit family bond. All studies have agreed, a close family bond produces emotionally strong and confident people. Family bond study has provided results that were not surprising after one considers the results of studies researching intelligence, sexuality, confidence and successfulness.

Questionnaire and results:

1. Age (50/50 m/f): 1,500 4 – 10    2,800 11 – 14    5,700 15 - 18    
   
2. Do you feel comfortable in the nudist community/lifestyle?    100% yes
   
3. Are you nudists at home?        100% yes 60% all the time 33% mostly 7% among family only
   
4. Are you active when nude?    100% yes 65% all the time 30% mostly 5% sometimes
   
5. Do you have a close relationship with parents?    89% very close    9% close    2% so-so
   
6. Do you have a close relationship w/ brothers/sisters?     90% very close    10% close
   
7. Have your parents told you to ask any question?    100% yes
   
8. Do you believe you can ask "any" question?     99% yes    1% unsure
   
9. Do you feel comfortable discussing "any" question?     98% yes        1% unsure    1% no
   
10. Have you ever not received an answer from your parents?     100% no
    
11. Have you talked about sex with your parents?    100% yes
    
12. Were you comfortable with the discussion?        95% yes     1% unsure    4% afterwards yes
    
13. Do you feel comfortable talking to adults?        98% all the time        2% most of the time
    
14. Do you feel comfortable talking to children?        100% all the time
    
15. Can you discuss "anything" with anyone?        98% all the time        2% most of the time
    
16. Do you make friends easily?    89% all the time        10% most of the time    1% unsure
    
17. Do your friends know you are a nudist?    80% all         15% most    5% a few
    
18. Do you think your friends should be nudists?     100% yes
    
19. Do you think everyone should be nudists?    98% yes        2% unsure
    
20. Are you sexually active with yourself?     6% 4 – 10    82% 11 – 14 99% 15 – 18
    
21. Have you had sex with someone?        >0.5% 4 – 10    2% 11 – 14    3% 15 - 18
    
22. Are you sexually active with someone?    >0.5% 4 - 10    >1% 11 – 14     2% 15 – 18
    
23. Have you done illegal drugs?    100% no     4 – 10    >0.5% yes 11 – 14    >0.5% yes 15 – 18
    
24. Have you drunk alcohol?         100% no 4 – 10    >0.5% yes 11 – 14     >0.5% yes 15 – 18
    
25. Do you smoke?            100% no 4 – 10     100% no 11 – 14        >0.5% yes 15 – 18
    

 

Abby.

Nudists Do Better Academically

Academics can also be given as evidence and benefits of the nudist lifestyle. Smith, Stewart, Hardy and Turner research in the mid 1970's regarding academics, children and said learning rates produced exact results revealing astonishing and unexpected findings. The results were of children with extraordinarily high above average academic levels in all course studies; not just a select few subjects. Past and present research has shown Math and Science courses showed girls with higher scores than boys. History and Business courses showed boys with higher scores than girls.

However, the individuals that showed the highest above average scores in all subjects made up a small percentage of the case study individuals (approx. 5%). Further investigation revealed 65% of the 5% case study subjects belonged to individuals that were either frequent or total participates of the nudist lifestyle and communities. Continued study and research has been on going with numbers showing consistent evidence supporting original studies. Ten years later since the original study, majority of the highest above average students (approx. 75%) were exposed to the nudist lifestyle. In all case studies the top 5% of above average students in the nation were studied. Although the original subjects (students) were still being monitored, their statistics were not included in the phase of the study under discussion.

As memberships to nudist and naturist communities and lifestyles have grown, so has the percentage of above average test subjects. The 1985 study showed further increase of percentile from 75% to 95% of above average students participated in the nudist lifestyle. Test subjects monitored from the 1970 study continued to perform well and stayed in the higher top 1% of above average students.

As a general consensus from the academic community, the psychology and behavioral sciences communities have concluded no fault of the original findings and subsequent studies have portrayed an accurate foundation for findings as sound. In other words, due to many issues mostly stemming from self confidence, strong ability to focus and close relationship with parents, children and adults raised in a nudist lifestyle are more intelligent or more focused academicly.

It is never to late for a change in lifestyle.

Abby.

Health Benefits of Nudist Lifestyle

So long as nudists take precautions, this lifestyle is healthier than "normal" living. The human body requires vitamin C and D (as well as other vitamins) to stay healthy. Both of these vitamins are absorbed by exposure to the sun. The average non nudist leaves approximately 5% to 50% of their body exposed to the sun hence absorbing considerably less vitamins than nudists do. With proper lotions a nudist is not likely to incur any more shun damage than the average person that is not a nudist. With the constant use of lotions, nudists tend to be better protected from the sun than the average person is. This is due to knowledge and understanding the effects of their decision and actions.

Another health benefit is de-toxing one's body. The human body has thousands of pores all over our body. These pores are meant to absorb good vital and needed vitamins and to allow the release of bad or used toxins from our system. If the human body is 90% covered 80 – 90% of the time, how does the body release toxins? This can not be done efficiently or effectively. People believe clothing absorbing sweat is good, but it's not. Sweat is meant to cool the body when needed. Allowing clothing to wick away the cooling sweat, the body does not cool properly. Medical studies confirm, people who are practicing nudists 75% or more of the time, are healthier and their bodies retain less harmful toxins.

Physically fit. This lifestyle is not only for the slim and trim or muscular. Evidence shows the slightly overweight to "obese" nudist have experienced dramatic weight loss due to an increase of activity largely explained by becoming secure with their appearance resulting in the confidence to socialize more. Nudist communities/resorts have a full range of activities for all nudists to participate including volleyball, horse shoes, fitness rooms as well as classes, swimming and water games, hiking or nature trails; the same activities as clothed society has to offer.

Abby.

Original Posts

As I move my blog to blogger.com, I am finding that I am not changing the date to the original posting date but rather having the date set as I currently re-post. This is turning out to be a lot more work than I speculated to begin with.

That being said, I am no longer trying to keep up with the original posting dates, but will try to include them in the posts.

Abby.

Questionnaire

I have been asked if I would post my research questionnaire on my blog for everyone to see and contribute if they so desire. I am working on having a submittable form set up for anyone who is interested to submit the information.

I can tell you now (as I do when handing out the questionnaire) answer all questions honestly to the best of your ability. Research has already provided evidence that members of the nudist lifestyle are 97% honest when submitting a questionnaire such as mine. Of course there is also a 2% margin of error. Non nudist members are only 65% honest when submitting a questionnaire such as mine. There are several contributing factors: 1. lack of self confidence. 2. concern of what others will think. 3. shame or embarrassment factor. 4. shy or introvert.

All I ask is if you are going to submit or make a statement regarding anything on my site, be honest not only with me, but most importantly, be honest with yourself.

Abby.

Nudist Not Sex

One of the first and most common question I receive either via email, this blog or at a seminar is:
Isn't nudist just another way of saying 'let's have sex'?

Nudist lifestyle is not sexual. Yes there are confidence issues that can be solved by a nudist lifestyle or upbringing however, being nude is not always sexual nor does it have to be. It is an attitude, an intelligence level, a state of mind or pure way of life. A nudist community is not an invitation to a sexual orgy. And for those of you who did not know, the word orgy does not always apply to or is not always refering to sex.

Abby.

Nudists and Sex

Statistics show that nudists children have less curiosity regarding a naked body and sex as they age because the children have been raised in a nudist lifestyle which also includes a open minded and open communication between parents/adults and children. An open line of communication is a key to raising intelligent, respectful and well rounded children. To say no subject is off limits is one thing, but to feel comfortable to discuss any subject or topic is another. This train of thought is instituted in this lifestyle so the children are not only discussing and asking questions, they also build a closer relationship with parents and adults.

A nudist lifestyle is not sex related. As far as sex is concerned, appearances and curiosity of seeing a person naked is a driving force in teenage and young adults urges which often lead to sex. Most communication regarding nudity and sex is very open with no sense of taboo for any subject related to the body and sex so there is no topic that is off limits. In most cases, openness regarding questions of any kind is accepted as adults and children alike are encouraged to voice their questions or opinions. This does not mean it is considered acceptable to have sex at any age or to experiment with the body in any way. Most children are taught at a young age about sex, relationships, the human body and morals.

Early expose to the naked body and teaches that nudity is acceptable, natural and not wrong has diminished curiosity of seeing someone naked. This curiosity often leads to sexual activity when the curiosity is satisfied by disrobing and not stopping the curiosity at the sight of nakedness. This tends to be a precursor to sexual activity among the young and the adults in what is classed as "normal" society. Research has proven: young males and females are less sexually active involving the nudist lifestyle.

Statistics for non-nudist:

1 out of 10 girls between ages 15 – 18 have sex

1 out of 5 boys between ages 15 – 18 have sex

1 out of 20 girls between ages 11 – 14 have sex

1 out of 25 boys between ages 11 – 14 have sex

Statistics for nudist:

1 out of 35 girls between ages 15 – 18 have sex

1 out of 30 boys between ages 15 – 18 have sex

1 out of 80 girls between ages 11 – 14 have sex

1 out of 80 boys between ages 11 – 14 have sex

The results do not support nudists being sexually active to a higher degree than non-nudists are. In fact the research shows just the opposite which has been an on going argument for many to not accept or allow nudists in the real world.

Abby.

A Confidence Within, Makes Us Proud

Study after study has proven nudity early in life builds character, confidence and a sense of security with in one's self. Young children growing up through the years in such a nudist lifestyle has made what is considered "taboo" in modern society a normal every day environment. The taboo of being naked is done away with and children are more open about their bodies, accepting of others, and are healthier physically, emotionally and mentally. All shame is removed and children are more vocal about their feelings and curiosity. As these children become adults they become better established in communities, more intelligent and more confident.

The confidence learned helps nudists in many ways. Physically these people notice the changes in their bodies from the inside out with little to no consideration or embarrassment to the body. Physical condition and appearances of body shape, color, or size is not considered relevant. Because there is no stigma encasing nudity the children and adults are very comfortable with themselves so any visible changes are expected and considered normal; an everyday experience. In other words, body changes during growth and maturity are expected, seen as normal and are not cause for alarm or stress. Even when body changes or differences are noticed, it is accepted as the fact it is; no one's body is the same. This mentality quickly becomes evident and in fact carries over into many facets of their lives. Early and continued exposure to the naked body has made children and adults more secure and confident in their appearance which makes them more confident in everyday life experiences.

Confidence builds strong character, well behaved and well mannered people not easily swayed by peer pressure. Nudist children and adults grow up tending to make better choices and thinking of others instead of just themselves. This has become evident in most every study ever done regarding nudist families and/or children.

Abby.

The Realization

While reading this and other research or studies concerning children regarding any subject remember this: from the moment we bring children home from the hospital, we are teaching them right from wrong. Do you agree?

As the children grow, become older, explore, investigate and test parents, again we are giving the child input and teaching them right from wrong. Do you agree?

As a child ventures out with parents or siblings eventually it will be time to cross the street. The child approaches the cross walk but forgets to look before crossing. The child is scolded or lectured about the dangers or at the very least and most common is told "What have I told you? Do not cross the street without look both ways first". Teaching the child right from wrong. Do you agree?

A child slips out of his/her diaper or runs out of their bedroom before putting clothes on. The child is lectured it is not appropriate and should go put clothes on, no one should see "their privates". Teaching them right from wrong. Do you agree?

This is WHY and the ONLY reason why child and adults believe nudity is wrong. As children, most are taught it is wrong to be going around in front of others without wearing any clothes.

No where in the Bible does it state we are to wear clothing. NO WHERE does it state or insinuate it is a sin to go around naked. If someone tells you the Bible does say to wear clothing, ask them the verse.

We the people, the humans of shy and shameless are who have taught for centuries it is not proper to go around without covering ourselves. Hence is the problem with society today and has been since the 1800's. The United States, to this day is still one of the strictest countries regarding not only nudity but also sex (which is a whole different story).

Please keep this in mind as you read through the tutorials, research, studies, statistics and first person accounts told in their own words.

Abby.

Research and Studies

The research and studies I mention here (some) are available on the Internet with the exception of one or two. Some of the information provided here is from my Father's, Jame's and my step mom's research.
As most of you know my father and James held doctorates and my mom was a clinical lab researcher also holding a couple degrees and doctorates. Child psychology was my step mom's area of study and as you know I followed in her foot steps. Foot steps I am very proud of and to this day enjoy.
Some of the studies performed in the early seventies were the beginning of reliable, focused, and legitimate research of the nudist life style. This research immediately branched out to far reaching topics and categories cover a wide range of factor studies both controlled and uncontrolled.

Some of the research I will be referring to:
Jasper, Hastings, and Connally. 1970-73
Collin, Hastings, Turner and Turner. 1971-75
Jasper, Turner and Turner. 1975-80
Marilyn Story. 1979
Goldmans. 1981
Lewis and Janda. 1988
Okami Study. 1995
Nevgy. 2004

Abby.

In The Beginning

I was raised in a nudist family, we were nude most of the time. In our house, out in the backyard, in the swimming pool, and even laying out tanning. When I say "we" I mean my dad, mom, two sisters and later my step-mom and step-brother. The second family occured when I was about 10 after my mother left my dad and us three kids. My dad was killed in an automobile accident and I went to live with my step-mom and step-brother who lost the man of their house in the same car accident as my dad (our dads worked together after college, that's how they met and how we all became close friends and family).
I was actually raised around my second family. We had known each other for years hanging out together, family outings with one another and just partying in the backyard for birthdays and anniversaries. My new mom was just that; she always treated me as one of her own and never favored her real son over me but at times I think I got special treatment from her.
My new brother has always been cool. That special treatment I mentioned, he said I was deserving and said it was nice that mom got the girl she always wanted. My two sisters were always a pain and never treated anyone with respect. They demanded everything they thought they should have, never worked for a dime and crapped on all of us every chance they got. As they got older they went to live with my first mom and never looked back. Honestly, I never looked for them, unfortunately, there was no love lost between us.

So there you have a brief run down of my family/friends. We continued our lifestyle as we had before the dramatic changes in our lives. Living as nudists never seemed unusual or abnormal. I knew that most of the children I grew up with were not involved in the nudist lifestyle, however there came a time when I did met a girl from high school at one of the resorts but no issue was every made of it. In fact, she was relieved when she saw me and couldn't believe that I had been living the lifestyle I had for so long. She ended up becoming a good friend and to this day is still enjoying the nudist lifestyle.


Abby.

Nudist Does Not Equal Sex

I hear the statement, "it will cause orgies and all those kids to have sex" or "just asking for trouble". What are they referring to? Nudist, yes. These statements are from people that do not know what nudism or naturism is regarding. The free feeling lifestyle does not mean it is an early sixties love fest like so many people believe it to be.
It is a way a life. It is a confidence builder. People are more aware of their body and are comfortable with the way they are rarely declaring "I wish my body looked like...." It doesn't happen, at least not often.
There studies and research and scientific tests that have proven how healthy nudism really can be for a person.

Abby.