Where I Am Today

Over the last several years life has been very daunting at times.  When of course happens, we must all overcome, persevere.  At times it is not easy.  It has not been because of my lifestyle, the friends I have or choices I've made.  Hence, the reason I am in Africa.

I have obtained a research grant to study a tribe in the Amazon.  The journey has been long and hard, uncomfortable (compared to the spoiled ways I live), but most of all, it has been extremely educating, eye opening and satisfying.  I have no time schedule as to my return, if all goes well, this study may go on for years.  I am in a remote area of the Amazon jungle, satellite phone with limited coverage and internet coverage even more limited if considering the upload speeds.

I will post as I can.  No promises as to how often or what will be the subject of my posts.  It is not like I am in the middle of the jungle at a nudist resort.

As I learn more of the tribe and their expectations, traditions and lifestyle I will post a blurb here and there.

Abby

Types Of Nudist Resorts

I have had several questions regarding the type of resorts, beaches and communities.  This post is to help distinguish the different types of nude “communities” and acceptable behavior of each.

First, Nude resorts.  A resort is just that, a resort where people go and enjoy a nude lifestyle within the confines of the resort.  Resorts are found all over the world and of several types or “star rating” much like a common resort.  As a general rule there are a few categories of resorts.   Please keep in mind these are generalized and often are referred to by different names or “titles”.

1. Family Friendly Resorts.  These resorts are becoming more and more common.  FFR’s are just that.  The are family friendly and are accessed by all ages; normally 17 years of age and younger must be accompanied by a parent or legal guardian.

--- Standards of behavior are that which is contusive to family gathers.  Any open/public sexual activity is forbidden.  This is a family friendly resort, get a room.   As with most resorts the display of a erection is the biggest concern.  Some resorts require an erection to be covered until there is no erection, but this is not necessarily the rule at all family resorts.  There maybe exceptions to this rule (if there is such a rule).  The exception may exclude boys at a certain age not to cover up since they are in the middle of maturing and have less control of the situation than grown males.  If exposing your children to viewing an erection is a concern, check the resort rules before booking your stay at the resort.

2. Adults Only Resorts.  AOR’s may include couples only resorts.  These resorts are not meant for children under the age of 18 or 21 in some cases.  This is not for any other reason other than, the resort does not want to be held liable for adult nudity around under aged children.  Some of these resorts require all adults to be in a relationship and there at the resort with their partner.  Now, how some are handling the “gay issue” varies from one resort to the next.  In some resorts any female can visit accompanied or unaccompanied however, been maybe required to check in with a female, not by themselves or with another male.  Again, this could fall into how each individual resort handles gay couples or individuals in general.  Better safe than sorry, call ahead and get a copy of the rules or ask point blank, don’t beat around the bush and ask!

3.  Swingers Nude Resorts.  SNR’s are for adults only but do not confuse them with an AOR.  This is a lifestyle all of it’s own, not only a nudist lifestyle but a swinger’s lifestyle as well.  It is common place in a SNR for there to be open/public sexual encounters throughout the resort.  This type of resorts are not for everyone and by no means should be used as a standard practice for the nudist lifestyle.  SNRs are for adults interested in “swinging” which is commonly said of those that swap partners, have multiple partners (at one time) or trade partners for a given length of time.

I hope this clears up some of the misunderstandings regarding Nudist Resorts and what is expected behavior.  No matter which type of resort you are interested in, you should call and get the resort rules or at least ask in a plain and easy to understand question regarding your concerns.

Hope this helps!

Abby

A Little About Me - Abygale Turner

This is just a short snippet of something about me.  Many readers have asked a lot a questions about me personally so I thought I would answer a few of those questions by posting.  This blog would normally be for answering questions and/or networking with other nudists or non-nudists in hopes of reaching out, teaching and supporting everyone.

This is a family friendly blog just like most nude resorts and beaches are family friendly.

I will post more and more of the questions that have been asked of me, about me.

A little about me:

I am a nudist, I grew up in this fantastic lifestyle. I was introduced to nudism when I was less than one year old along with the rest of my family plus my Dad's best friend and his family. After family tragedies, our families combined; I was raised by my "step-mom" who I consider my mom.
I am  in my 40's, a nudist and love the lifestyle. I have been a research subject regarding nudism since the day I was born.

Internet and Nudists

The internet has of course both helped and hurt the Nudists by informing people the way of nudist lifestyle.  This has been both good and bad although the good has far out reached the bad, the bad has been obviously labor intense to delete, respond and/or make the bad misinformation and attitude disappear.

The bad of course being the people (sorry mostly men), trying to get in contact with the nudists through the internet for things other than nudist lifestyle questions, resort questions etc. Not all the contact has been sex related and it takes several emails to make the men understand being nude is not sex related.  There have been a few times when a well place letter or email to these men and their internet provider was required; unfortunately we had to take extreme measures to do so, but we had to.

The internet has been a excellent source for sharing information easier whether it has been in regards to questions about the lifestyle or advertising for the nudist resorts.  Of course one draw back is when someone does a search regarding nudism, they have to wade through all of the porn that is using "nudist, nude sunbathing, nudist resort" and other key phrases to get the porn site in most searches done on the internet.

I have literally thousands of emails regarding nudism.  Most of these letters I have responded to both directly and in posted the questions and responses on my blog.  As you know I am still in the process of moving my blog here, so be sure to "follow" my blog for all updated posts.

I have recently been in a mind frying dilemma.  As some of you know my niece was posting her point of views on my blog; giving a teenage angle to very popular questions.  Since her passing, I have been struggling as to whether or not I should re-post her originals here.  The question is still there, it's up in the air.... Input is welcome if you so desire.

Hugs and kisses to you all.

Lecture Discussion–What is Norm?

This weekend was a 3 day seminar with class credit given to University students.  The most active and interested topics was: “What is normal for a nudist?”

The class room discussion quickly lead to comparing lifestyles of the nude and non-nude.  The discussion was active not just by male but also females and of all ages.

First and foremost the topic was expressed as meaning more to females than males.  After a short question period asking for a show of hands dealing with comfort ability of being naked in front of others the results were surprising to many of the students.

Males would feel more comfortable being naked in front of women compared to females being more comfortable being naked in front of other females.

Most of the females admitted they like being naked when by themselves or wearing skimpy clothing in front of other females.  Most admitted they would rather be naked instead of wearing the skimpy cloths but thought it make other females uncomfortable.  No one of course having the courage to say to one another that they would prefer to be naked.

Females also said they would feel comfortable being naked in front of males so long as they understood it was not about sex but about being comfortable and enjoying their true self.  Males on the other hand said they would not be comfortable being naked in front of other males and especially not in mixed company.  Yes, getting a erection in front of mixed company was a major concern because the males thought they would be compared to other males in the room to see how one “measures up”.

All of these issues related 100% to the mentality and understanding of what nudism is really about; being one’s self, comfortable, nonjudgmental, and mature.

By the end of the lecture, 100% of the females (of all ages 18 – 58) were attending the lecture in the nude.  Only 31% of the males attended the lecture in the nude.  The other males said they did not feel comfortable being naked in front of other males.

Take it for what it is worth, which is a lot, females if honest with themselves and willing to try nudism, are more comfortable regarding the nudism lifestyle.

Nudism is not Sexual?

This has been a major debate or more precisely a topic to educate non-nudists.  It is very basic.  Whether clothed or not, you will see people that immediately you think are pretty, handsome, sexy, hot and of course just the opposite ugly, plain, homely looking or may not attract your attention.  This will happen whether you are nude or wearing clothes.

For someone who always wearing clothing, they will see someone naked and say “they are sexy” or “they need to cover up”.  How would they feel about the same person if they were wearing clothes?  Clothed or naked, you will always at one time or another find someone that is extremely striking, enough so you take notice of this person.  And besides, sometimes wearing clothes (very little) is sexier than anything else.  Sometimes.

We (the nudist lifestyle livers) are not saying when you see someone naked it will not attract arousal or thoughts of how you feel seeing them.  We are saying being nudes does not mean sex.  How many times have you seen someone and thought “wow, he/she is extremely sexy”?  Was the person clothed?  We all have seen someone, somewhere and thought that person is pretty.  So pretty that person stands out.  Male or female, clothed or not, someone will come into your field of vision and you will say “wow”.

It truly is the same thing.

Abby

Teenage Nudists, What Do I Do?

"I am a single mom of two.  My son and daughter are now in their mid to late teens.  Do I need to go to them and ask if they still want to be nudists (they have been since birth) or should I trust they will come to me if they don't?"

If your son and daughter have been nudists since birth, chances are they are comfortable with the situation and not concerned with being nudists.  Statistics show that being raised as a nudist makes a person more confident, comfortable with being naked in front of others, more accepting of people and their differences.

However it is not a bad idea to occasionally ask if the teenagers are still comfortable being nudists; this is true no matter how old or young the person.  I suggest asking each of the children separately if they have a problem going to the nude resorts or being a nudist at home, etc.  If either or both of the children say they do not want to continue the lifestyle, ask why.  Do not try to convince them they should continue but rather respect their feelings.  Discuss their answers and be sure to inform them that at any time they should come to you with any concerns or change of feelings.

Abby

An Apology For Being Nude

Although the title of this post maybe somewhat miss-leading, be sure and understand, at no time will there be an apology for be apart of a nudist life style. It is a personal choice that people make about how they want to live their life.

I receive emails time and time again (almost every day) from people either:
1. Saying how sinful being nude is, 2. Innuendos of having sex.
These people do not get it. Being nude is not against God; no where in the bible is there anything said about having to cover up, NO WHERE. Look it up, its not there. The discussion is about group sex or the like. It has been the thinking of the ministry that has added the train of thought that being nude is wrong or sinful. Again, being nude is NOT an invitation to have sex.

Innuendos of having sex. Being a Nudist does not mean a person is always out to have sex. Unrelated issues. It really is that simple. It is the mentality of people that has made nudity sex related. You can have sex without taking all of your cloths off. Just like you don't have to turn out the lights to have sex. But you do have to take your cloths off to be nude (obviously) and you don't have to have sex or even think about having sex just because you are naked.

You're naked when you shower; do you always have sex in the shower? No.
A majority of people sleep in the nude (ages from 5 to 100+); are they having sex every night? No.

Since a very young age most people are told to cover up or you can't run around naked, it's not acceptable. Yet in school during PE all the guys shower together after class as do all the girls, but this is considered acceptable. So if that is acceptable why is lying around a pool not acceptable? At a time in their lives when teenage hormones are running full force, we are pushing boys into showers -- being naked -- and the same with girls, can their immaturity really handle that after all these years of being told that being naked is okay only if you are in private?
What affects does this have on these teenagers mental growth?

Again, if it is okay to be naked around people you barely know as a teenager in a shower, why is it not acceptable to be naked at the beach or by a pool or in your backyard or at a resort?

Abby

Nude Pics

When I first started this blog, it was an effort to maximize the exposure to the true facts of research and studies performed for many years regarding nudism. In doing so, I have created a small community gathering of parents and their children and young adults (females and males) that have consistently thanked me for answering their questions with facts, examples and my opinion. In an effort to help people understand the nudist lifestyle I have not and will not start my own dot com community, charging membership fees. I am available via email, which I am happy to answer any and all questions.  Nor will I post nude pictures of anyone adult or otherwise to increase my readership.  Don't ask, don't beg, don't period! I will not post or send pics; period! Nudism is not about sex. It is away of life building family bonding, confidence and strong self assured people.

Abby.

Nudists, Family Bonding

Family bonding is not an issue for most nudist families. Few studies have been done on the closeness of families participating in the nudist lifestyle however there have been volumes upon volumes of studies as the benefits of a tight, knit family bond. All studies have agreed, a close family bond produces emotionally strong and confident people. Family bond study has provided results that were not surprising after one considers the results of studies researching intelligence, sexuality, confidence and successfulness.

Questionnaire and results:

1. Age (50/50 m/f): 1,500 4 – 10    2,800 11 – 14    5,700 15 - 18    
   
2. Do you feel comfortable in the nudist community/lifestyle?    100% yes
   
3. Are you nudists at home?        100% yes 60% all the time 33% mostly 7% among family only
   
4. Are you active when nude?    100% yes 65% all the time 30% mostly 5% sometimes
   
5. Do you have a close relationship with parents?    89% very close    9% close    2% so-so
   
6. Do you have a close relationship w/ brothers/sisters?     90% very close    10% close
   
7. Have your parents told you to ask any question?    100% yes
   
8. Do you believe you can ask "any" question?     99% yes    1% unsure
   
9. Do you feel comfortable discussing "any" question?     98% yes        1% unsure    1% no
   
10. Have you ever not received an answer from your parents?     100% no
    
11. Have you talked about sex with your parents?    100% yes
    
12. Were you comfortable with the discussion?        95% yes     1% unsure    4% afterwards yes
    
13. Do you feel comfortable talking to adults?        98% all the time        2% most of the time
    
14. Do you feel comfortable talking to children?        100% all the time
    
15. Can you discuss "anything" with anyone?        98% all the time        2% most of the time
    
16. Do you make friends easily?    89% all the time        10% most of the time    1% unsure
    
17. Do your friends know you are a nudist?    80% all         15% most    5% a few
    
18. Do you think your friends should be nudists?     100% yes
    
19. Do you think everyone should be nudists?    98% yes        2% unsure
    
20. Are you sexually active with yourself?     6% 4 – 10    82% 11 – 14 99% 15 – 18
    
21. Have you had sex with someone?        >0.5% 4 – 10    2% 11 – 14    3% 15 - 18
    
22. Are you sexually active with someone?    >0.5% 4 - 10    >1% 11 – 14     2% 15 – 18
    
23. Have you done illegal drugs?    100% no     4 – 10    >0.5% yes 11 – 14    >0.5% yes 15 – 18
    
24. Have you drunk alcohol?         100% no 4 – 10    >0.5% yes 11 – 14     >0.5% yes 15 – 18
    
25. Do you smoke?            100% no 4 – 10     100% no 11 – 14        >0.5% yes 15 – 18
    

 

Abby.

Health Benefits of Nudist Lifestyle

So long as nudists take precautions, this lifestyle is healthier than "normal" living. The human body requires vitamin C and D (as well as other vitamins) to stay healthy. Both of these vitamins are absorbed by exposure to the sun. The average non nudist leaves approximately 5% to 50% of their body exposed to the sun hence absorbing considerably less vitamins than nudists do. With proper lotions a nudist is not likely to incur any more shun damage than the average person that is not a nudist. With the constant use of lotions, nudists tend to be better protected from the sun than the average person is. This is due to knowledge and understanding the effects of their decision and actions.

Another health benefit is de-toxing one's body. The human body has thousands of pores all over our body. These pores are meant to absorb good vital and needed vitamins and to allow the release of bad or used toxins from our system. If the human body is 90% covered 80 – 90% of the time, how does the body release toxins? This can not be done efficiently or effectively. People believe clothing absorbing sweat is good, but it's not. Sweat is meant to cool the body when needed. Allowing clothing to wick away the cooling sweat, the body does not cool properly. Medical studies confirm, people who are practicing nudists 75% or more of the time, are healthier and their bodies retain less harmful toxins.

Physically fit. This lifestyle is not only for the slim and trim or muscular. Evidence shows the slightly overweight to "obese" nudist have experienced dramatic weight loss due to an increase of activity largely explained by becoming secure with their appearance resulting in the confidence to socialize more. Nudist communities/resorts have a full range of activities for all nudists to participate including volleyball, horse shoes, fitness rooms as well as classes, swimming and water games, hiking or nature trails; the same activities as clothed society has to offer.

Abby.

Original Posts

As I move my blog to blogger.com, I am finding that I am not changing the date to the original posting date but rather having the date set as I currently re-post. This is turning out to be a lot more work than I speculated to begin with.

That being said, I am no longer trying to keep up with the original posting dates, but will try to include them in the posts.

Abby.

Raging Hormones–Lisa

We received another question regarding teenagers, so my Aunt Abby (that sounds so weird) thought it would be a good one for me to answer.  This question has to do with boys coming of age.

“Hi, I’m 16 year old boy.  My family is, my Mom, me and 3 sisters, one older (18) and two younger (15 and 13).  My problem is when we hangout in the nude, I get erections.  I can’t help it.  I don’t sit there thinking about sex with my sisters or mom.  I think about sex in general, yes, but not about them.  I also feel bad because I know that being nude isn’t about sex.

I’m sure seeing them naked does add to my thoughts and stuff but I don’t know what to do.  I’ve tried several things including masturbating before hanging out but with in minutes of being around everyone naked, I’m hard again.  We are a nudist family and have been since I was about 5.  My issues started a few years ago, but now it’s just getting worse than it ever has been. I do cover up with a towel to hide my erection but it lasts a long time.  Sometimes, I get an erection when we are playing a game, it’s like out of the blue I’m hard as can be.  Is this normal?  What am I to do?”

I’ve been around a lot of boys as they “mature”.  Seeing an erection for a long time nudist is not a big concern.  It happens especially with boys coming of age.  It’s hormones, there is nothing you can do about it.  I’ve seen boys in their teens, in their twenties, and all the way up to older men.  It happens.  There is nothing to be embarrassed about, shy or uncomfortable about.  You will reach a point when getting an erection while being around nudists will be less and less.  Eventually, getting an erection will be controllable (to a point) and the more you are use to being around nudists while hormones are raging, the less often it will happen.

From a young girls point of view, it is not embarrassing to us to see especially if the girl is raised as a nudist.  As girls get older and their hormones are raging, yes they may look at a guy with an erection in a sexual way.

You are doing the right things.  Masturbating will help, covering with a towel (but not out of embarrassment; out of consideration for others around you), also if you have to get up and leave for awhile until your erection dissipates, it’s ok.

Hopefully your mom and sisters understand and are not making an issue out of it and are not teasing or making fun of you.

Hope this helps.

L

A Confidence Within, Makes Us Proud

Study after study has proven nudity early in life builds character, confidence and a sense of security with in one's self. Young children growing up through the years in such a nudist lifestyle has made what is considered "taboo" in modern society a normal every day environment. The taboo of being naked is done away with and children are more open about their bodies, accepting of others, and are healthier physically, emotionally and mentally. All shame is removed and children are more vocal about their feelings and curiosity. As these children become adults they become better established in communities, more intelligent and more confident.

The confidence learned helps nudists in many ways. Physically these people notice the changes in their bodies from the inside out with little to no consideration or embarrassment to the body. Physical condition and appearances of body shape, color, or size is not considered relevant. Because there is no stigma encasing nudity the children and adults are very comfortable with themselves so any visible changes are expected and considered normal; an everyday experience. In other words, body changes during growth and maturity are expected, seen as normal and are not cause for alarm or stress. Even when body changes or differences are noticed, it is accepted as the fact it is; no one's body is the same. This mentality quickly becomes evident and in fact carries over into many facets of their lives. Early and continued exposure to the naked body has made children and adults more secure and confident in their appearance which makes them more confident in everyday life experiences.

Confidence builds strong character, well behaved and well mannered people not easily swayed by peer pressure. Nudist children and adults grow up tending to make better choices and thinking of others instead of just themselves. This has become evident in most every study ever done regarding nudist families and/or children.

Abby.

The Realization

While reading this and other research or studies concerning children regarding any subject remember this: from the moment we bring children home from the hospital, we are teaching them right from wrong. Do you agree?

As the children grow, become older, explore, investigate and test parents, again we are giving the child input and teaching them right from wrong. Do you agree?

As a child ventures out with parents or siblings eventually it will be time to cross the street. The child approaches the cross walk but forgets to look before crossing. The child is scolded or lectured about the dangers or at the very least and most common is told "What have I told you? Do not cross the street without look both ways first". Teaching the child right from wrong. Do you agree?

A child slips out of his/her diaper or runs out of their bedroom before putting clothes on. The child is lectured it is not appropriate and should go put clothes on, no one should see "their privates". Teaching them right from wrong. Do you agree?

This is WHY and the ONLY reason why child and adults believe nudity is wrong. As children, most are taught it is wrong to be going around in front of others without wearing any clothes.

No where in the Bible does it state we are to wear clothing. NO WHERE does it state or insinuate it is a sin to go around naked. If someone tells you the Bible does say to wear clothing, ask them the verse.

We the people, the humans of shy and shameless are who have taught for centuries it is not proper to go around without covering ourselves. Hence is the problem with society today and has been since the 1800's. The United States, to this day is still one of the strictest countries regarding not only nudity but also sex (which is a whole different story).

Please keep this in mind as you read through the tutorials, research, studies, statistics and first person accounts told in their own words.

Abby.