Types Of Nudist Resorts

I have had several questions regarding the type of resorts, beaches and communities.  This post is to help distinguish the different types of nude “communities” and acceptable behavior of each.

First, Nude resorts.  A resort is just that, a resort where people go and enjoy a nude lifestyle within the confines of the resort.  Resorts are found all over the world and of several types or “star rating” much like a common resort.  As a general rule there are a few categories of resorts.   Please keep in mind these are generalized and often are referred to by different names or “titles”.

1. Family Friendly Resorts.  These resorts are becoming more and more common.  FFR’s are just that.  The are family friendly and are accessed by all ages; normally 17 years of age and younger must be accompanied by a parent or legal guardian.

--- Standards of behavior are that which is contusive to family gathers.  Any open/public sexual activity is forbidden.  This is a family friendly resort, get a room.   As with most resorts the display of a erection is the biggest concern.  Some resorts require an erection to be covered until there is no erection, but this is not necessarily the rule at all family resorts.  There maybe exceptions to this rule (if there is such a rule).  The exception may exclude boys at a certain age not to cover up since they are in the middle of maturing and have less control of the situation than grown males.  If exposing your children to viewing an erection is a concern, check the resort rules before booking your stay at the resort.

2. Adults Only Resorts.  AOR’s may include couples only resorts.  These resorts are not meant for children under the age of 18 or 21 in some cases.  This is not for any other reason other than, the resort does not want to be held liable for adult nudity around under aged children.  Some of these resorts require all adults to be in a relationship and there at the resort with their partner.  Now, how some are handling the “gay issue” varies from one resort to the next.  In some resorts any female can visit accompanied or unaccompanied however, been maybe required to check in with a female, not by themselves or with another male.  Again, this could fall into how each individual resort handles gay couples or individuals in general.  Better safe than sorry, call ahead and get a copy of the rules or ask point blank, don’t beat around the bush and ask!

3.  Swingers Nude Resorts.  SNR’s are for adults only but do not confuse them with an AOR.  This is a lifestyle all of it’s own, not only a nudist lifestyle but a swinger’s lifestyle as well.  It is common place in a SNR for there to be open/public sexual encounters throughout the resort.  This type of resorts are not for everyone and by no means should be used as a standard practice for the nudist lifestyle.  SNRs are for adults interested in “swinging” which is commonly said of those that swap partners, have multiple partners (at one time) or trade partners for a given length of time.

I hope this clears up some of the misunderstandings regarding Nudist Resorts and what is expected behavior.  No matter which type of resort you are interested in, you should call and get the resort rules or at least ask in a plain and easy to understand question regarding your concerns.

Hope this helps!

Abby

Lecture Discussion–What is Norm?

This weekend was a 3 day seminar with class credit given to University students.  The most active and interested topics was: “What is normal for a nudist?”

The class room discussion quickly lead to comparing lifestyles of the nude and non-nude.  The discussion was active not just by male but also females and of all ages.

First and foremost the topic was expressed as meaning more to females than males.  After a short question period asking for a show of hands dealing with comfort ability of being naked in front of others the results were surprising to many of the students.

Males would feel more comfortable being naked in front of women compared to females being more comfortable being naked in front of other females.

Most of the females admitted they like being naked when by themselves or wearing skimpy clothing in front of other females.  Most admitted they would rather be naked instead of wearing the skimpy cloths but thought it make other females uncomfortable.  No one of course having the courage to say to one another that they would prefer to be naked.

Females also said they would feel comfortable being naked in front of males so long as they understood it was not about sex but about being comfortable and enjoying their true self.  Males on the other hand said they would not be comfortable being naked in front of other males and especially not in mixed company.  Yes, getting a erection in front of mixed company was a major concern because the males thought they would be compared to other males in the room to see how one “measures up”.

All of these issues related 100% to the mentality and understanding of what nudism is really about; being one’s self, comfortable, nonjudgmental, and mature.

By the end of the lecture, 100% of the females (of all ages 18 – 58) were attending the lecture in the nude.  Only 31% of the males attended the lecture in the nude.  The other males said they did not feel comfortable being naked in front of other males.

Take it for what it is worth, which is a lot, females if honest with themselves and willing to try nudism, are more comfortable regarding the nudism lifestyle.

Nudism is not Sexual?

This has been a major debate or more precisely a topic to educate non-nudists.  It is very basic.  Whether clothed or not, you will see people that immediately you think are pretty, handsome, sexy, hot and of course just the opposite ugly, plain, homely looking or may not attract your attention.  This will happen whether you are nude or wearing clothes.

For someone who always wearing clothing, they will see someone naked and say “they are sexy” or “they need to cover up”.  How would they feel about the same person if they were wearing clothes?  Clothed or naked, you will always at one time or another find someone that is extremely striking, enough so you take notice of this person.  And besides, sometimes wearing clothes (very little) is sexier than anything else.  Sometimes.

We (the nudist lifestyle livers) are not saying when you see someone naked it will not attract arousal or thoughts of how you feel seeing them.  We are saying being nudes does not mean sex.  How many times have you seen someone and thought “wow, he/she is extremely sexy”?  Was the person clothed?  We all have seen someone, somewhere and thought that person is pretty.  So pretty that person stands out.  Male or female, clothed or not, someone will come into your field of vision and you will say “wow”.

It truly is the same thing.

Abby

Nudism & Erections

Q: “I have 3 children, 1 son and 2 daughters.  My husband and I have raised our children as nudists since our son was 5.  He is now in his early teens and it is obvious that he is more mature than as a parent, I tend to accept.  Recently he has said he didn’t want to participate in the nudist lifestyle anymore.  At first when asked he would not say why only that he didn’t want to.  I believe he is still interested because while in his room he is nude.  Recently I walked into his room and he was nude, so I asked again why he didn’t want to participate with the rest of the family.  He finally answered.  He said he cannot control himself from getting an erection and it was embarrassing to him when he is naked in front of everyone.  What do I say?”

A: First, this is very common among males in general.  This is something he needs to understand.  He is not the only one this happens to.  Your son will learn to control the timing of his erection to an extent, but that won’t be for some time.

Second, he can try these tips to help make his erection diminish when it occurs.  A cold shower often helps.  If you are at a lake or river, going into the water may help because of the wet and cold water or just to get his mind focused on something else.  The last will help him “grow” mentally as this is something most males don’t learn until later in life.

Third, cover up with a towel if the above don’t work or not available.  At all resorts, a person is required to carry a towel at all times to sit on when using chairs, benches etcetera.  He may want to carry an extra towel so he has one to sit on and one to cover up with if needed.

Forth, DO NOT make issue if he has to excuse himself to use a shower or jump into the lake.  Make sure he knows that if he says he is heading to the water and will be right back, it is okay and that you will not question it.

Fifth, this is something that I don’t recommend as he will discover this soon enough if he hasn’t already.   However, this maybe a good time to explain to him about masturbation if you haven’t already.  Masturbation is not wrong, it is not bad, it is not immoral.  It does not lessen one’s values.  I don’t recommend using this as a method to make his erection go away because you don’t want to mix nudity with sex.  This may be confusing to him unless you and your husband have gone to get lengths regarding the differences…. nudity does not mean sex…

Your son needs to know that what is happening to him is natural, is not cause to be embarrassed and means he is growing into a man.

I do encourage parents to read my blog and suggest this can be good reading material for your children.

Abby

Emails, Questions Regarding Nudism

I have received several emails covering a wide range of questions.  I will be posting the questions and answer here, but first here is a list of a few questions.

Is genital shaving frowned upon at resorts/nude beaches?

I've noticed a lot of girls slightly older than me and older ladies that have shaved their genital/pubic area, is this ok?

My family and I are practicing nudists at beaches and resorts and at home but from what I can tell none of my friends are.  How do I still do it when a friend comes over to visit or spend the night?  I don't want my family to change just because of my friends.

I am a single mom of two.  My son and daughter are now in their mid to late teens.  Do I need to go to them and ask if they still want to be nudists (they have been since birth) or should I trust they will come to me if they don't?

Our son is twelve and he is having some trouble controlling himself when we go to the local nude beach.  He gets an erection easily and then becomes embarrassed but does cover up like he is suppose to.  What should we do?  And what advice should we give him?

I will be answering these questions in the next couple of days.  Each question will have it's own post unless there are related questions.

Abby

Raging Hormones–Lisa

We received another question regarding teenagers, so my Aunt Abby (that sounds so weird) thought it would be a good one for me to answer.  This question has to do with boys coming of age.

“Hi, I’m 16 year old boy.  My family is, my Mom, me and 3 sisters, one older (18) and two younger (15 and 13).  My problem is when we hangout in the nude, I get erections.  I can’t help it.  I don’t sit there thinking about sex with my sisters or mom.  I think about sex in general, yes, but not about them.  I also feel bad because I know that being nude isn’t about sex.

I’m sure seeing them naked does add to my thoughts and stuff but I don’t know what to do.  I’ve tried several things including masturbating before hanging out but with in minutes of being around everyone naked, I’m hard again.  We are a nudist family and have been since I was about 5.  My issues started a few years ago, but now it’s just getting worse than it ever has been. I do cover up with a towel to hide my erection but it lasts a long time.  Sometimes, I get an erection when we are playing a game, it’s like out of the blue I’m hard as can be.  Is this normal?  What am I to do?”

I’ve been around a lot of boys as they “mature”.  Seeing an erection for a long time nudist is not a big concern.  It happens especially with boys coming of age.  It’s hormones, there is nothing you can do about it.  I’ve seen boys in their teens, in their twenties, and all the way up to older men.  It happens.  There is nothing to be embarrassed about, shy or uncomfortable about.  You will reach a point when getting an erection while being around nudists will be less and less.  Eventually, getting an erection will be controllable (to a point) and the more you are use to being around nudists while hormones are raging, the less often it will happen.

From a young girls point of view, it is not embarrassing to us to see especially if the girl is raised as a nudist.  As girls get older and their hormones are raging, yes they may look at a guy with an erection in a sexual way.

You are doing the right things.  Masturbating will help, covering with a towel (but not out of embarrassment; out of consideration for others around you), also if you have to get up and leave for awhile until your erection dissipates, it’s ok.

Hopefully your mom and sisters understand and are not making an issue out of it and are not teasing or making fun of you.

Hope this helps.

L