Nudism and Crime Rate

I have been asked via email and also at seminars about crime statistics in nudist communities, nudist resorts and family practiced nudism within the household.  In the statistics listed below sexual assault is a violent crime, however it has been separated from “violent crime” to show more of a break down and accuracy of the different type crimes.

Statistics:

Violent crime (assault):  .02%  These were crimes committed at a resort or within a community.  All participates of the crime were nudists.

Sexual Assault (rape):  .01%  Within the nudist community there has only been one rape reported/filed in a nudist community or resort.  This reported occurred at a resort in Greece.  The man who committed the rape was not a nudist; he worked at the resort at the front counter (check-in counter).  During the investigation, it was discovered the man was wanted for attempted rape in another city.

Sexual Assault (inappropriate touching):  .03%  All of these acts were committed by people who were able to get through “security” checks.  All of the criminals (yes, all were prosecuted) admitted the only reason they were at the resort or beach was to “pick up” a woman.  In one instance, the man beat a woman, claiming she was his wife.  The woman was not his wife.  The man later was confined to a institution for evaluation and treatment.

Theft:  1%  This is the highest of any crime committed in the nudist communities.  However, in comparison to the national average, the one percent equates to .002% of the national average.  The crime rate for theft does not even register on the national scale.

I hope, you understand what these numbers represent, how minuet these statistics generate in the national average.  The numbers listed above prove, without a doubt, nudity does not encourage crime of anytime.

Abby

Unwanted Advances

While visiting at a nudist resort in Florida, a “gentleman” approached me, asking if he could sit and talk.  I, of course said yes, so the gentleman sat and visited for about an hour.

The conversation was the normal chit-chat, name, where from, what do I do for a living, likes, dislikes, etc.  All seemed good, normal and actually quite pleasant.  Then came the advances.  I explained (politely) that I was not interested, but thanks for asking.  This however did not stop him.  Next came the casual touching, he slide over, leg against leg, then soon a shoulder touching or him telling a joke and lightly touch my arm as if we were old friends.

I stressed to him again that I was not interested.  I explained that his behavior was not appreciated nor was it appropriate.   Then he said the all time, over the top pick up line that always makes women jump into men’s arms; “oh come one, you know you want it”.  I informed him, his actions have gone way beyond reasonable or acceptable and I was going to management to have him taken care of.

He, of course got a little upset.  Okay, extremely upset.  He informed me, that I was the issue.  I… Yes, I was the issue, a tease, a slut and a bitch.  He went on to say that I needed to change my ways and stop being a hypocrite because “everyone knows the real reason to come to a nudist resort”.

I with my ultimate wisdom (meaning smarta@@ attitude) replied with a simple but subtle comment.  “Sir, I am reporting you to resort management.  I am requesting you leave me alone.  People like you give nudism a bad rap, and lastly, I am not attracted to you; your personality nor your body.  Sir, I come here to the resort to relax, not to hit on men and definitely not to be hit on by men”.

I have used this experience in my seminars and classes.  And there is always at least one person that responds with: 

Q:  If you don’t go to a nudist resort to “get lucky” then why do you go?

A:  Why do you go to the beach or a ski resort?  The reasons for doing things are not any different just because you are doing it in the nude.  Yes, some people go to clothing required beach to find a date, meet new people for a relationship.  Some may do that at a nudist resort or beach, but it is only a few that are that way.  To a nudist, a place where we can go and be nude, do normal things such as sunbath, swim, play volleyball, meet like minded people, or just relax; all in the nude, that is why nudists go to nude facilities.

Yes, it really is that simple.  Most people discussing or thinking about nudism, over think, over analyze or won’t think outside of the box.  For many, nudism is not a natural concept for their mind.  In most seminars, I do have to break the concept down to very basic thought processes to get around preconceived notions, emotions and ideals.

Have a great day!

Abby

Bless the Queen’s Estate Beach Now Open

Below is an article published Oct. 13th.  I hope you take the time to read it carefully.  The article is about the re-opening of what had become known as a nudist beach in the UK.  It was closed because of a small handful of deviants, pervs and sloths with no respect.

I have been to the beach.  It is a lovely beach and often heavily populated with nudists and naturalists.  However, there was a group of people conducting themselves in adult behavior with no respect for others.  Having sex in the middle of the beach, propositioning tours and regular beach goers as they walked by attempting to enjoy what they thought was a safe haven for nudity.

Because of the select few and their behavior the beach was closed; understandable so.  The beach, much to most delight, has been re-opened for nudists and naturalists.  The fear of course the bad element will return to the beach practicing elicit behavior and once again ruining the beach for others.

As I have said in the past and almost everyday in emails and blog posts…. nudism is NOT about sex.  It is about living a life clothes free.  Whether you are a nudist or not, it is NOT appropriate  to have sex, engage in sex acts or proposition beach goers.

I believe the preferred solution is to have law enforcement patrol the beach and arrest those practicing elicit behavior.  The word will get out; the beach is for nudists and naturalists not the lowly, morality lacking people using the beach to copulate.  It is people like these that give nude beaches, nude resorts and nudism in general a bad name.

Enough of my rant.  Here’s the link: http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-2442382/The-Queens-estate-reverses-ban-nudists-famous-beach-imposed-complaints-haven-swingers-perverts.html

Have a great day!

Abby

Types Of Nudist Resorts

I have had several questions regarding the type of resorts, beaches and communities.  This post is to help distinguish the different types of nude “communities” and acceptable behavior of each.

First, Nude resorts.  A resort is just that, a resort where people go and enjoy a nude lifestyle within the confines of the resort.  Resorts are found all over the world and of several types or “star rating” much like a common resort.  As a general rule there are a few categories of resorts.   Please keep in mind these are generalized and often are referred to by different names or “titles”.

1. Family Friendly Resorts.  These resorts are becoming more and more common.  FFR’s are just that.  The are family friendly and are accessed by all ages; normally 17 years of age and younger must be accompanied by a parent or legal guardian.

--- Standards of behavior are that which is contusive to family gathers.  Any open/public sexual activity is forbidden.  This is a family friendly resort, get a room.   As with most resorts the display of a erection is the biggest concern.  Some resorts require an erection to be covered until there is no erection, but this is not necessarily the rule at all family resorts.  There maybe exceptions to this rule (if there is such a rule).  The exception may exclude boys at a certain age not to cover up since they are in the middle of maturing and have less control of the situation than grown males.  If exposing your children to viewing an erection is a concern, check the resort rules before booking your stay at the resort.

2. Adults Only Resorts.  AOR’s may include couples only resorts.  These resorts are not meant for children under the age of 18 or 21 in some cases.  This is not for any other reason other than, the resort does not want to be held liable for adult nudity around under aged children.  Some of these resorts require all adults to be in a relationship and there at the resort with their partner.  Now, how some are handling the “gay issue” varies from one resort to the next.  In some resorts any female can visit accompanied or unaccompanied however, been maybe required to check in with a female, not by themselves or with another male.  Again, this could fall into how each individual resort handles gay couples or individuals in general.  Better safe than sorry, call ahead and get a copy of the rules or ask point blank, don’t beat around the bush and ask!

3.  Swingers Nude Resorts.  SNR’s are for adults only but do not confuse them with an AOR.  This is a lifestyle all of it’s own, not only a nudist lifestyle but a swinger’s lifestyle as well.  It is common place in a SNR for there to be open/public sexual encounters throughout the resort.  This type of resorts are not for everyone and by no means should be used as a standard practice for the nudist lifestyle.  SNRs are for adults interested in “swinging” which is commonly said of those that swap partners, have multiple partners (at one time) or trade partners for a given length of time.

I hope this clears up some of the misunderstandings regarding Nudist Resorts and what is expected behavior.  No matter which type of resort you are interested in, you should call and get the resort rules or at least ask in a plain and easy to understand question regarding your concerns.

Hope this helps!

Abby

A Little About Me - Abygale Turner

This is just a short snippet of something about me.  Many readers have asked a lot a questions about me personally so I thought I would answer a few of those questions by posting.  This blog would normally be for answering questions and/or networking with other nudists or non-nudists in hopes of reaching out, teaching and supporting everyone.

This is a family friendly blog just like most nude resorts and beaches are family friendly.

I will post more and more of the questions that have been asked of me, about me.

A little about me:

I am a nudist, I grew up in this fantastic lifestyle. I was introduced to nudism when I was less than one year old along with the rest of my family plus my Dad's best friend and his family. After family tragedies, our families combined; I was raised by my "step-mom" who I consider my mom.
I am  in my 40's, a nudist and love the lifestyle. I have been a research subject regarding nudism since the day I was born.

Girls Night and Nudity

Hi everyone,

Thought I would let everyone know, Aunt Abby is away on a lecture tour and my folks are out fighting a fire in another state.  Grams is here watching me so it’s all good, right? 

Anyway, several of my friends from school are here for a sleep over (all girls, sorry guys, the other Moms so no to a coed sleep over).

As a group, we have been discussing several topics (as us teen girls always do).

First, boys.  Boys are cool, but we all agreed we are way to young to be risking getting pregnant!  Do we want to date?  Yes, of course.  But dating does not mean sex!!  We all agreed, kissing would be good but more than that, well….  sorry!   Again, way to young.

Second, nudity.  Yes we are all sitting around enjoying the comforts and freedoms of being nude.  No one here has a problem being nude.  Again, we all agreed, it is NOT a sex thing.  It is a comfort thing!  A lifestyle thing, a preference… but is not a sex thing so get over it and I’m not talking to just the boys out there.  I’m talking to other girls the snub their noses up think they are too good to be nude, I’m talking to those that wrinkle their noses at nudists stating their opinion as if it was facts and not ever experiencing nudism.  You need to get over yourselves and stop being disrespectful to those that are nudists.  Just because you don’t like it (whether you have tried it or not) doesn’t mean you should be disrespectful to us.  We aren’t disrespectful to you.

Third, touchy feely.  As girls normally do, we are always hugging each other, laying a hand on each other, having our arms around each other while we walk around or whatever the touchy feely is.  Just because we are naked when we do it, doesn’t mean it’s any different than girls that do the same thing when dressed.  Again, it’s not a sex thing.  In fact, from what I have seen, heard and read, the non-nudist are the ones that make it a sex thing.  If we are naked and walking arm in arm, holding hands, or showing some kind of physical contact it is considered a sexual.  But, if we are walking around the mall walking arm in arm, holding hands or showing some kind of physical contact it is considered cute or a sign of best friends like sisters.  Again, the non-nudists relate nudism, being naked to SEX.  It’s NOT!!!

Forth, sexuality.  As nudist, I believe we are more aware of our sexuality than non-nudists.  Nudists (at least the ones I know) seem to talk about a sexual topic more openly and more matter of fact than those that are not nudists.  Whether a person is straight, gay or bi, doesn’t matter when it comes to talking about sexual behavior, sexual preference or just sex in general.  We seem to be more confident, less embarrassed (if at all), more open minded and less judgmental than non-nudists.  BDSM, oral, or whatever the topic, it should be discussed if someone has questions.  It might not be for one person but maybe it is by the next.  So it’s their choice.  Just like someone liking or disliking apples.  Doesn’t mean it is a reason to like or dislike that person so long as they don’t try to force their way on someone who has they are not interested.

We have a few more topics that we discussed as a group, shaved pubic area’s, self pleasure, fantasies, hobbies and the human body.  Serious discussions with a lot of humor mixed in.  I will post more of it later, we have just entered a new topic…. Naked in public.

L

Teen Nudity Question to Lisa

Hi everyone.  We just received a question regarding teenage nudity.

“Lisa, I’m in my early teens, not raised as a nudist and I don’t have friends that are nudists as you and your family are.  I am ALWAYS uncomfortable in clothes.  I mean that when I do wear clothes I am always wishing that I wasn’t.  I talked to my mom about it and finally she has agreed that if I don’t want to wear clothes around the house I don’t have too.  It took some doing but after reading your Aunt’s blog, she has agreed.

My question to you is, how do you feel about being raised as a nudist?  Did you have a choice?  Do you regret being a nudist?”

Kimberly, I’m glad your Mom agrees to let you go nude around the house.  But, be sure not to abuse it!  Be aware of your Mom’s feelings as well and make sure you know where the line is as to when and when not it is okay to be nude.

Your first question, how do I feel about being a nudist?  I love it!!  I really do.  I also almost always wish I was nude when I have to wear clothing of any kind.  When I do were clothing, I wear as little as possible, including (or excluding) bras and panties. 

Being raised a nudist I believe I have matured (in some ways) faster than other teenagers.  I don’t look at people and start to rate or judge their appearance.   For me, when I say someone has a great personality, that does not mean they are not pretty or handsome, it means, they have a great personality.  Body shape, size, color or modifications (if any) don’t mean anything to me.  I like people for who they are, without all the drama and distractions most people are raised with.

I am more self confident than most my age and I believe it is because I am raised in the nude.  Nothing to hide , I am comfortable with me and the way I look which adds to my confidence and less stressful way of life.  I don’t worry about having certain brand clothing or accessories, etc.  I am comfortable just the way I am.  If people don’t like me for who I am, then obviously they can not be my friend and I don’t have to worry about it.  I don’t try to be someone I'm not, my confidence helps me be the person I am. 

Do I have a choice?  Yes!  My parents and Aunt always make sure I am going nude because I want too, not because everyone else is.  This attitude builds with not falling to peer pressure.  I have become a strong person because of my nudity, reinforcing who I am and helping me make better choices.

Something else I believe is because of not hiding behind clothing or pretending to be something I’m not, I am more open minded and don’t judge people for their likes and dislikes.  I am always respectful to that.  In fact, I find I have more respect for people that obviously are doing what they want (if it’s a good choice) instead of what all of their friends think they should be doing.

Being raised in a nudist family lifestyle probably brings up more questions sooner than later on many subjects.  Sex being one of them.  I don’t get embarrassed if the subject of sex comes up and I don’t shy away from talking about it.  This does not mean I have sex or that I am planning on having sex with someone anytime soon.  It just means I am totally aware facts regarding sex; the technical part as well as different types of sex acts.

There is no topic off limits in my family and I think you will find that among most nudists.  It has a lot to do with openness and not hiding or making a like or dislike opinion for someone else.  Your likes may or may not be the same as mine.  But until I try something, I don’t know if I like it or dislike it so how can I judge something until I do?

I have no regrets regarding being a nudist.  I totally enjoy the lifestyle.

I know there are a lot of stats around the medical field and the internet regarding pros and cons of nudity (I’m talking about facts not someone’s opinion based on no knowledge).  I believe more females than males prefer nudity depending on age.  Overall, I bet the stats are the same.

By the way, most of my girlfriends that are not in a nudist family lifestyle, love coming to my house so they can be nude.  They like the lifestyle just as much as I do.

Hope this helps!

L

Changing Your Lifestyle

I have received many emails asking “how do I start?”.
There are several ways to start experimenting, to try it out.  The first way is normally not done and can have a negative result rather than a positive reaction.
The first and most obvious way is to just jump right in.  Look on the internet for nudist resort nearest you, call for a reservation if needed and go.  Once there, do as they do.  Strip down and head to the beach, pool or whatever amenities the resort has to offer.  This takes a lot of courage and can stop someone from actually trying and enjoying the experience.
Here is what I suggest for both men and women.  Start slow.  After showering/bathing take your time before getting dressed.  Don’t rush.  Dry off, hang up your towel, do your hair, makeup, shave, brush your teeth and then go pick out your clothes to put on.  You should still be naked at this time.  No, not even the towel should be wrapped around you… remember, I said ‘hang up your towel’.
Still doing good?  Or is it time to put clothes on?  Do as much as you can until you are use to the feeling and knowing you are walking around naked.  Then increase your activity before getting dressed.  Staying to the bedroom will make for an easier adjustment.  Most people feel secure in their bedroom which will help minimize any stress or comfort issues.
Another good start for trying nudism, is sleeping naked.  You are in the security of your room, covered in blankets and you are comfortable.  Research has shown that 8 out of 10 who tried sleeping the nude for the first time, find it more comfortable than with clothes.  Think about it.  How many times have you rolled over in bed only to have to re-adjust your pj’s because they didn't roll with you? Now you have to lift this body part or that, tug on your pj’s and then settle down and get comfortable again.  Not if you aren't wearing any pj’s.  This same study showed that 9 out of 10 people sleeping in the nude fall asleep faster and sleep more soundly and feel better rested when they wake up in the morning.
So, try sleeping in the nude.  When you get up, don’t grab the bathrobe.  If you have a bathroom connected to your room or if you live alone, climb out of bed, walk to the bathroom and start the shower.  Not counting the time you are sleeping (6 – 8 hours?) look at all the time you have spent nude. Below are average times depending on if you are male/female and what you actually do for each.
Brushing your teeth: 5 minutes
Doing your hair:  10 – 30 minutes
Shaving (face): 10 minutes
Doing makeup:  10 – 15 minutes
Making the bed:  5 minutes
Picking up your room: 15 minutes
Checking cell phone messages:  5 minutes
Checking email: 10 – 15 minutes
Answering email: 15 – 30 minutes
See, you have already spent at least an hour in the nude that you normally would not have.  And it feels great right?
Having a lazy day or done working for the day? Climb in bed and read a good book.  If you are a woman, don’t let the sheet sliding down and exposing you be a worry.  Read your book.  Resist the temptation to keep pulling the covers over you as you read.  Grab that glass of water or wine as your read, but don’t grab the sheet.  Leave it, let it do it’s own thing.
As you can see, there is a slow progressing of not only being nude while you do regular activities but resist the need to pull a bathrobe closed, pull up the sheets, pull down a t-shirt.  This will help you not only be comfortable and confident about yourself but about others as well.  There is no shame in being you!
Now it’s time to try the living room.  Go sit on the couch or in your favorite chair.  Need to check the news? Watch your favorite show.  So do it…. in the nude.
Have to let the dog or cat out into the backyard?  So do it.  Open the door as you normally would if you were clothed.  Please note I did say ‘backyard’.  If your house faces a street and there is a chance someone will see you as they walk by, it’s not a good idea to stand at the doorway all exposed.   The police could be knock on your door soon if you do.
Not everyone fits into the mold of a model.  In my opinion, most female models are way to skinny, un-natural, and unrealistic.  Being a nudist helps with self-confidence, learning and social stills.
Hugs and kisses, everyone!

Internet and Nudists

The internet has of course both helped and hurt the Nudists by informing people the way of nudist lifestyle.  This has been both good and bad although the good has far out reached the bad, the bad has been obviously labor intense to delete, respond and/or make the bad misinformation and attitude disappear.

The bad of course being the people (sorry mostly men), trying to get in contact with the nudists through the internet for things other than nudist lifestyle questions, resort questions etc. Not all the contact has been sex related and it takes several emails to make the men understand being nude is not sex related.  There have been a few times when a well place letter or email to these men and their internet provider was required; unfortunately we had to take extreme measures to do so, but we had to.

The internet has been a excellent source for sharing information easier whether it has been in regards to questions about the lifestyle or advertising for the nudist resorts.  Of course one draw back is when someone does a search regarding nudism, they have to wade through all of the porn that is using "nudist, nude sunbathing, nudist resort" and other key phrases to get the porn site in most searches done on the internet.

I have literally thousands of emails regarding nudism.  Most of these letters I have responded to both directly and in posted the questions and responses on my blog.  As you know I am still in the process of moving my blog here, so be sure to "follow" my blog for all updated posts.

I have recently been in a mind frying dilemma.  As some of you know my niece was posting her point of views on my blog; giving a teenage angle to very popular questions.  Since her passing, I have been struggling as to whether or not I should re-post her originals here.  The question is still there, it's up in the air.... Input is welcome if you so desire.

Hugs and kisses to you all.

Lecture Discussion–What is Norm?

This weekend was a 3 day seminar with class credit given to University students.  The most active and interested topics was: “What is normal for a nudist?”

The class room discussion quickly lead to comparing lifestyles of the nude and non-nude.  The discussion was active not just by male but also females and of all ages.

First and foremost the topic was expressed as meaning more to females than males.  After a short question period asking for a show of hands dealing with comfort ability of being naked in front of others the results were surprising to many of the students.

Males would feel more comfortable being naked in front of women compared to females being more comfortable being naked in front of other females.

Most of the females admitted they like being naked when by themselves or wearing skimpy clothing in front of other females.  Most admitted they would rather be naked instead of wearing the skimpy cloths but thought it make other females uncomfortable.  No one of course having the courage to say to one another that they would prefer to be naked.

Females also said they would feel comfortable being naked in front of males so long as they understood it was not about sex but about being comfortable and enjoying their true self.  Males on the other hand said they would not be comfortable being naked in front of other males and especially not in mixed company.  Yes, getting a erection in front of mixed company was a major concern because the males thought they would be compared to other males in the room to see how one “measures up”.

All of these issues related 100% to the mentality and understanding of what nudism is really about; being one’s self, comfortable, nonjudgmental, and mature.

By the end of the lecture, 100% of the females (of all ages 18 – 58) were attending the lecture in the nude.  Only 31% of the males attended the lecture in the nude.  The other males said they did not feel comfortable being naked in front of other males.

Take it for what it is worth, which is a lot, females if honest with themselves and willing to try nudism, are more comfortable regarding the nudism lifestyle.

Nudism & Erections

Q: “I have 3 children, 1 son and 2 daughters.  My husband and I have raised our children as nudists since our son was 5.  He is now in his early teens and it is obvious that he is more mature than as a parent, I tend to accept.  Recently he has said he didn’t want to participate in the nudist lifestyle anymore.  At first when asked he would not say why only that he didn’t want to.  I believe he is still interested because while in his room he is nude.  Recently I walked into his room and he was nude, so I asked again why he didn’t want to participate with the rest of the family.  He finally answered.  He said he cannot control himself from getting an erection and it was embarrassing to him when he is naked in front of everyone.  What do I say?”

A: First, this is very common among males in general.  This is something he needs to understand.  He is not the only one this happens to.  Your son will learn to control the timing of his erection to an extent, but that won’t be for some time.

Second, he can try these tips to help make his erection diminish when it occurs.  A cold shower often helps.  If you are at a lake or river, going into the water may help because of the wet and cold water or just to get his mind focused on something else.  The last will help him “grow” mentally as this is something most males don’t learn until later in life.

Third, cover up with a towel if the above don’t work or not available.  At all resorts, a person is required to carry a towel at all times to sit on when using chairs, benches etcetera.  He may want to carry an extra towel so he has one to sit on and one to cover up with if needed.

Forth, DO NOT make issue if he has to excuse himself to use a shower or jump into the lake.  Make sure he knows that if he says he is heading to the water and will be right back, it is okay and that you will not question it.

Fifth, this is something that I don’t recommend as he will discover this soon enough if he hasn’t already.   However, this maybe a good time to explain to him about masturbation if you haven’t already.  Masturbation is not wrong, it is not bad, it is not immoral.  It does not lessen one’s values.  I don’t recommend using this as a method to make his erection go away because you don’t want to mix nudity with sex.  This may be confusing to him unless you and your husband have gone to get lengths regarding the differences…. nudity does not mean sex…

Your son needs to know that what is happening to him is natural, is not cause to be embarrassed and means he is growing into a man.

I do encourage parents to read my blog and suggest this can be good reading material for your children.

Abby

Genital Shaving

I've received several emails regarding gential shaving, so I will be covering all the questions with this post although I have only copied two of the questions (all of the others were basically the same questions asked of me).

Is genital shaving frowned upon at resorts/nude beaches?

I've noticed a lot of girls slightly older than me and older ladies that have shaved their genital/pubic area, is this ok? I really like the look and was thinking of doing it myself.

Most resorts do not have rules or regulations regarding genital shaving.  Genital shaving is normally considered the same as one's hairstyle; worn in a style that is liked by the individual person.  However, if you are one that shaves your pubic/genital hair, keep it neat just as you would have your hair styled and brushed appropreately for going out in public.

Genital/pubic shaving is okay.  Many men and women are doing and there does not seem to be any side effects medically speaking other than a few visual ones.  Shaving can produce a rash with tiny bumps similar to the rash some women getting shaving their under arms and like the rash some men get on their neck.  There are several precautions to take:
1. always use a new fresh razor that has not been used, I also dip mine in a cup of rubbing alchol to make sure it is sterial
2. wash the area to be shaved with warm soap and water
3. use a shaving cream designed for soft and sensitive skin (mine has aloe in it)
4. wash the area gently but thoroughly after shaving
5. apply a lotion in the shaved area
6. if you have to put clothes on afterwards, make sure the shaved area is dry
7. if you like the look and feel and plan on shaving, be sure to shave on a regular bases as to not allow stuble to get to long which will help prevent irritation.
8. apply lotion daily, this will keep the area soft and help from any rash developing

You may have to experiment a little as to which lotions and creams to use since each individual is different, the affects may differ slightly.

Aside from possible rash, in-grown hairs are possible; if you get an in-grown hair, take care of it properly.

There is no reason to be ashamed; a lot of women and girls shave the pubic area and the genital area.  Some do both and some do just the genital area.  There are also a lot of young ladies that have thought about shaving but are to embarrassed to shave.  I have shaved since I was thirteen or fourteen.

There are many different styles of shaving the pubic area.  A search on the internet should provide you with some input as to style.

Men also shave their pubic and genital areas.  I prefer a man with a neatly trim (short) pubic area and shaved shaft and testies.

Abby

Teenage Nudists, What Do I Do?

"I am a single mom of two.  My son and daughter are now in their mid to late teens.  Do I need to go to them and ask if they still want to be nudists (they have been since birth) or should I trust they will come to me if they don't?"

If your son and daughter have been nudists since birth, chances are they are comfortable with the situation and not concerned with being nudists.  Statistics show that being raised as a nudist makes a person more confident, comfortable with being naked in front of others, more accepting of people and their differences.

However it is not a bad idea to occasionally ask if the teenagers are still comfortable being nudists; this is true no matter how old or young the person.  I suggest asking each of the children separately if they have a problem going to the nude resorts or being a nudist at home, etc.  If either or both of the children say they do not want to continue the lifestyle, ask why.  Do not try to convince them they should continue but rather respect their feelings.  Discuss their answers and be sure to inform them that at any time they should come to you with any concerns or change of feelings.

Abby

Body Piercings and Nudity

Are genital piercing acceptable at a nudist resort?

Body piercings have always been a way to express one's self and to beautify the body.  A perfect and very common example is piercing of the ears.  Piercing of the ears have been done for generations here in America and it has been done and accepted in children and adults of all ages. Although some piercings are designed to enhance sexual sensations during sex with or without a partner, those same piercings also "beautify" the body.  Remember, beauty is in the eye of the beholder.

In my opinion all body piercing should be acceptable at a resort even though some resorts do not allow some genital piercings.  If you are planning a trip to a particular resort, call or email the resort and ask what the policy is regarding your exact type of piercing.  Don't beat around the bush, be honest and to the point as to the type piercing.

I have been lecturing and advising resorts for many years, trying to get resorts to accept piercings as a body expression NOT as a sexual attractant.  Although some people may consider genital piercing as a sexual expression these people must keep in mind that the piercings are also to make one appear more beautiful.

I have only a few piercings; ears pierced when I was about 5, my tongue pierced when I was fifteen and my belly button pierced when I was sixteen.  I still have all of my piercings and have no intention of removing them just to go to a nudist resort.  If the nudist resort I am interested in visiting does not allow body piercings, I don't go to that resort.

My brother on the other hand does have genital piercings and his piercings are not considered acceptable at some resorts.  Those resorts are ones we do not visit because he like me refuses to remove the piercings.

Be sure to check with the nudist resort before booking a stay or visiting the resort; don't wait until the last minute because the resorts rules may make you want to stay somewhere else.

Abby

In the Shower

After working out with my niece, we headed for the shower. The shower of course is much like ones at most high schools; a community shower that can probably hold up to 15 or 20 people at one time. A couple of ladies were discussing if it was appropriate for a friend to be showering with their daughter (age 10). Of course both ladies thought that was pushing the "limits" as far as a mother or father showering with a teenager.

My niece, Lisa (13), asked the ladies a blunt and very pointed question. "Why does age have anything to do with showering together?"
The two women of course stared at her blankly when one spoke asking if she would be comfortable showering with her mom or dad at the age she is now.  Lisa responded explaining, that she would feel more uncomfortable showering with strangers than with a parent. "Besides" Lisa pointed to me, "I'm showering with Aunt and two ladies I don't even know".

That ended the debate immediately and the two ladies agreed that it would be more uncomfortable with strangers, yet here we all are in the shower together. One of the ladies smiled and said "you are a very smart young lady".

Need more be said? What about showering with her dad?  Well, Lisa does. When we go to swimming pools at one of the resorts, we are all naked. So what?

And there are times when we have all walked in on each other either showering, getting dressed (if clothes are required for something), this is all a "big deal" because of the way people are brought up. For a nudist, there is often the question of... "What's the big deal? Is there a problem?"

An Apology For Being Nude

Although the title of this post maybe somewhat miss-leading, be sure and understand, at no time will there be an apology for be apart of a nudist life style. It is a personal choice that people make about how they want to live their life.

I receive emails time and time again (almost every day) from people either:
1. Saying how sinful being nude is, 2. Innuendos of having sex.
These people do not get it. Being nude is not against God; no where in the bible is there anything said about having to cover up, NO WHERE. Look it up, its not there. The discussion is about group sex or the like. It has been the thinking of the ministry that has added the train of thought that being nude is wrong or sinful. Again, being nude is NOT an invitation to have sex.

Innuendos of having sex. Being a Nudist does not mean a person is always out to have sex. Unrelated issues. It really is that simple. It is the mentality of people that has made nudity sex related. You can have sex without taking all of your cloths off. Just like you don't have to turn out the lights to have sex. But you do have to take your cloths off to be nude (obviously) and you don't have to have sex or even think about having sex just because you are naked.

You're naked when you shower; do you always have sex in the shower? No.
A majority of people sleep in the nude (ages from 5 to 100+); are they having sex every night? No.

Since a very young age most people are told to cover up or you can't run around naked, it's not acceptable. Yet in school during PE all the guys shower together after class as do all the girls, but this is considered acceptable. So if that is acceptable why is lying around a pool not acceptable? At a time in their lives when teenage hormones are running full force, we are pushing boys into showers -- being naked -- and the same with girls, can their immaturity really handle that after all these years of being told that being naked is okay only if you are in private?
What affects does this have on these teenagers mental growth?

Again, if it is okay to be naked around people you barely know as a teenager in a shower, why is it not acceptable to be naked at the beach or by a pool or in your backyard or at a resort?

Abby

Being Nude Is Not About Sex

When will people get it? Being naked is NOT about sex. Walking around, lying around or playing games while naked is not an invitation for sex. If you think being naked is about having sex, you're wrong and you don't get it. That is the mentality that has kept being nude so much a taboo.

Nudist Questions

I have been answering questions regarding nudism for quite some time now.  I will be posting the questions and answers here on my blog.  I will not be providing any information regarding the individual that has emailed me questions.  If you have a question feel free to email me or post in the comments section of this post.
I will email you my answer as quickly as I am able.  No subject is off limits, ask what you will, just be honest with yourself and don't flame me if you disagree.  I will provide any research results I have plus my opinion if you are interested.

Abby.

Nude Pics

When I first started this blog, it was an effort to maximize the exposure to the true facts of research and studies performed for many years regarding nudism. In doing so, I have created a small community gathering of parents and their children and young adults (females and males) that have consistently thanked me for answering their questions with facts, examples and my opinion. In an effort to help people understand the nudist lifestyle I have not and will not start my own dot com community, charging membership fees. I am available via email, which I am happy to answer any and all questions.  Nor will I post nude pictures of anyone adult or otherwise to increase my readership.  Don't ask, don't beg, don't period! I will not post or send pics; period! Nudism is not about sex. It is away of life building family bonding, confidence and strong self assured people.

Abby.

Nudists, Family Bonding

Family bonding is not an issue for most nudist families. Few studies have been done on the closeness of families participating in the nudist lifestyle however there have been volumes upon volumes of studies as the benefits of a tight, knit family bond. All studies have agreed, a close family bond produces emotionally strong and confident people. Family bond study has provided results that were not surprising after one considers the results of studies researching intelligence, sexuality, confidence and successfulness.

Questionnaire and results:

1. Age (50/50 m/f): 1,500 4 – 10    2,800 11 – 14    5,700 15 - 18    
   
2. Do you feel comfortable in the nudist community/lifestyle?    100% yes
   
3. Are you nudists at home?        100% yes 60% all the time 33% mostly 7% among family only
   
4. Are you active when nude?    100% yes 65% all the time 30% mostly 5% sometimes
   
5. Do you have a close relationship with parents?    89% very close    9% close    2% so-so
   
6. Do you have a close relationship w/ brothers/sisters?     90% very close    10% close
   
7. Have your parents told you to ask any question?    100% yes
   
8. Do you believe you can ask "any" question?     99% yes    1% unsure
   
9. Do you feel comfortable discussing "any" question?     98% yes        1% unsure    1% no
   
10. Have you ever not received an answer from your parents?     100% no
    
11. Have you talked about sex with your parents?    100% yes
    
12. Were you comfortable with the discussion?        95% yes     1% unsure    4% afterwards yes
    
13. Do you feel comfortable talking to adults?        98% all the time        2% most of the time
    
14. Do you feel comfortable talking to children?        100% all the time
    
15. Can you discuss "anything" with anyone?        98% all the time        2% most of the time
    
16. Do you make friends easily?    89% all the time        10% most of the time    1% unsure
    
17. Do your friends know you are a nudist?    80% all         15% most    5% a few
    
18. Do you think your friends should be nudists?     100% yes
    
19. Do you think everyone should be nudists?    98% yes        2% unsure
    
20. Are you sexually active with yourself?     6% 4 – 10    82% 11 – 14 99% 15 – 18
    
21. Have you had sex with someone?        >0.5% 4 – 10    2% 11 – 14    3% 15 - 18
    
22. Are you sexually active with someone?    >0.5% 4 - 10    >1% 11 – 14     2% 15 – 18
    
23. Have you done illegal drugs?    100% no     4 – 10    >0.5% yes 11 – 14    >0.5% yes 15 – 18
    
24. Have you drunk alcohol?         100% no 4 – 10    >0.5% yes 11 – 14     >0.5% yes 15 – 18
    
25. Do you smoke?            100% no 4 – 10     100% no 11 – 14        >0.5% yes 15 – 18
    

 

Abby.