Girls Night and Nudity

Hi everyone,

Thought I would let everyone know, Aunt Abby is away on a lecture tour and my folks are out fighting a fire in another state.  Grams is here watching me so it’s all good, right? 

Anyway, several of my friends from school are here for a sleep over (all girls, sorry guys, the other Moms so no to a coed sleep over).

As a group, we have been discussing several topics (as us teen girls always do).

First, boys.  Boys are cool, but we all agreed we are way to young to be risking getting pregnant!  Do we want to date?  Yes, of course.  But dating does not mean sex!!  We all agreed, kissing would be good but more than that, well….  sorry!   Again, way to young.

Second, nudity.  Yes we are all sitting around enjoying the comforts and freedoms of being nude.  No one here has a problem being nude.  Again, we all agreed, it is NOT a sex thing.  It is a comfort thing!  A lifestyle thing, a preference… but is not a sex thing so get over it and I’m not talking to just the boys out there.  I’m talking to other girls the snub their noses up think they are too good to be nude, I’m talking to those that wrinkle their noses at nudists stating their opinion as if it was facts and not ever experiencing nudism.  You need to get over yourselves and stop being disrespectful to those that are nudists.  Just because you don’t like it (whether you have tried it or not) doesn’t mean you should be disrespectful to us.  We aren’t disrespectful to you.

Third, touchy feely.  As girls normally do, we are always hugging each other, laying a hand on each other, having our arms around each other while we walk around or whatever the touchy feely is.  Just because we are naked when we do it, doesn’t mean it’s any different than girls that do the same thing when dressed.  Again, it’s not a sex thing.  In fact, from what I have seen, heard and read, the non-nudist are the ones that make it a sex thing.  If we are naked and walking arm in arm, holding hands, or showing some kind of physical contact it is considered a sexual.  But, if we are walking around the mall walking arm in arm, holding hands or showing some kind of physical contact it is considered cute or a sign of best friends like sisters.  Again, the non-nudists relate nudism, being naked to SEX.  It’s NOT!!!

Forth, sexuality.  As nudist, I believe we are more aware of our sexuality than non-nudists.  Nudists (at least the ones I know) seem to talk about a sexual topic more openly and more matter of fact than those that are not nudists.  Whether a person is straight, gay or bi, doesn’t matter when it comes to talking about sexual behavior, sexual preference or just sex in general.  We seem to be more confident, less embarrassed (if at all), more open minded and less judgmental than non-nudists.  BDSM, oral, or whatever the topic, it should be discussed if someone has questions.  It might not be for one person but maybe it is by the next.  So it’s their choice.  Just like someone liking or disliking apples.  Doesn’t mean it is a reason to like or dislike that person so long as they don’t try to force their way on someone who has they are not interested.

We have a few more topics that we discussed as a group, shaved pubic area’s, self pleasure, fantasies, hobbies and the human body.  Serious discussions with a lot of humor mixed in.  I will post more of it later, we have just entered a new topic…. Naked in public.

L

Teen Nudity Question to Lisa

Hi everyone.  We just received a question regarding teenage nudity.

“Lisa, I’m in my early teens, not raised as a nudist and I don’t have friends that are nudists as you and your family are.  I am ALWAYS uncomfortable in clothes.  I mean that when I do wear clothes I am always wishing that I wasn’t.  I talked to my mom about it and finally she has agreed that if I don’t want to wear clothes around the house I don’t have too.  It took some doing but after reading your Aunt’s blog, she has agreed.

My question to you is, how do you feel about being raised as a nudist?  Did you have a choice?  Do you regret being a nudist?”

Kimberly, I’m glad your Mom agrees to let you go nude around the house.  But, be sure not to abuse it!  Be aware of your Mom’s feelings as well and make sure you know where the line is as to when and when not it is okay to be nude.

Your first question, how do I feel about being a nudist?  I love it!!  I really do.  I also almost always wish I was nude when I have to wear clothing of any kind.  When I do were clothing, I wear as little as possible, including (or excluding) bras and panties. 

Being raised a nudist I believe I have matured (in some ways) faster than other teenagers.  I don’t look at people and start to rate or judge their appearance.   For me, when I say someone has a great personality, that does not mean they are not pretty or handsome, it means, they have a great personality.  Body shape, size, color or modifications (if any) don’t mean anything to me.  I like people for who they are, without all the drama and distractions most people are raised with.

I am more self confident than most my age and I believe it is because I am raised in the nude.  Nothing to hide , I am comfortable with me and the way I look which adds to my confidence and less stressful way of life.  I don’t worry about having certain brand clothing or accessories, etc.  I am comfortable just the way I am.  If people don’t like me for who I am, then obviously they can not be my friend and I don’t have to worry about it.  I don’t try to be someone I'm not, my confidence helps me be the person I am. 

Do I have a choice?  Yes!  My parents and Aunt always make sure I am going nude because I want too, not because everyone else is.  This attitude builds with not falling to peer pressure.  I have become a strong person because of my nudity, reinforcing who I am and helping me make better choices.

Something else I believe is because of not hiding behind clothing or pretending to be something I’m not, I am more open minded and don’t judge people for their likes and dislikes.  I am always respectful to that.  In fact, I find I have more respect for people that obviously are doing what they want (if it’s a good choice) instead of what all of their friends think they should be doing.

Being raised in a nudist family lifestyle probably brings up more questions sooner than later on many subjects.  Sex being one of them.  I don’t get embarrassed if the subject of sex comes up and I don’t shy away from talking about it.  This does not mean I have sex or that I am planning on having sex with someone anytime soon.  It just means I am totally aware facts regarding sex; the technical part as well as different types of sex acts.

There is no topic off limits in my family and I think you will find that among most nudists.  It has a lot to do with openness and not hiding or making a like or dislike opinion for someone else.  Your likes may or may not be the same as mine.  But until I try something, I don’t know if I like it or dislike it so how can I judge something until I do?

I have no regrets regarding being a nudist.  I totally enjoy the lifestyle.

I know there are a lot of stats around the medical field and the internet regarding pros and cons of nudity (I’m talking about facts not someone’s opinion based on no knowledge).  I believe more females than males prefer nudity depending on age.  Overall, I bet the stats are the same.

By the way, most of my girlfriends that are not in a nudist family lifestyle, love coming to my house so they can be nude.  They like the lifestyle just as much as I do.

Hope this helps!

L

Raging Hormones–Lisa

We received another question regarding teenagers, so my Aunt Abby (that sounds so weird) thought it would be a good one for me to answer.  This question has to do with boys coming of age.

“Hi, I’m 16 year old boy.  My family is, my Mom, me and 3 sisters, one older (18) and two younger (15 and 13).  My problem is when we hangout in the nude, I get erections.  I can’t help it.  I don’t sit there thinking about sex with my sisters or mom.  I think about sex in general, yes, but not about them.  I also feel bad because I know that being nude isn’t about sex.

I’m sure seeing them naked does add to my thoughts and stuff but I don’t know what to do.  I’ve tried several things including masturbating before hanging out but with in minutes of being around everyone naked, I’m hard again.  We are a nudist family and have been since I was about 5.  My issues started a few years ago, but now it’s just getting worse than it ever has been. I do cover up with a towel to hide my erection but it lasts a long time.  Sometimes, I get an erection when we are playing a game, it’s like out of the blue I’m hard as can be.  Is this normal?  What am I to do?”

I’ve been around a lot of boys as they “mature”.  Seeing an erection for a long time nudist is not a big concern.  It happens especially with boys coming of age.  It’s hormones, there is nothing you can do about it.  I’ve seen boys in their teens, in their twenties, and all the way up to older men.  It happens.  There is nothing to be embarrassed about, shy or uncomfortable about.  You will reach a point when getting an erection while being around nudists will be less and less.  Eventually, getting an erection will be controllable (to a point) and the more you are use to being around nudists while hormones are raging, the less often it will happen.

From a young girls point of view, it is not embarrassing to us to see especially if the girl is raised as a nudist.  As girls get older and their hormones are raging, yes they may look at a guy with an erection in a sexual way.

You are doing the right things.  Masturbating will help, covering with a towel (but not out of embarrassment; out of consideration for others around you), also if you have to get up and leave for awhile until your erection dissipates, it’s ok.

Hopefully your mom and sisters understand and are not making an issue out of it and are not teasing or making fun of you.

Hope this helps.

L

Teenage Shaving–Lisa

This is an email question that came to my Aunt and we figured that maybe it was time it was answered by a teenager – me.

“I’m in 9th grade and just started the school year.  For most of the summer I have been shaving my pubic hair.  I got tired of always trimming to make sure nothing was showing from my bikini bottoms.  I’ve always thought it looked bad, tacky, well gross.  I don’t shave it all, but most of it.  It’s not like I have a lot of pubic hair yet but obviously there is some.  I never thought about having to shower with girls at school.  I don’t know what to expect or maybe I should stop shaving until next year’s summer break.  I would like to hear your advice.”

I started shaving and trimming almost as soon as my pubic hair started to grow.  I didn’t like the look compared to seeing what my Mom and Aunt do.  They both shave/trim their pubic hair and I really like the look rather than having a big mass of hair down there.

I was unsure what would happen the first time I showered after gym class.  It was a mix of expressions.  Some of the girls called me some pretty nasty names (which I won’t repeat but I’m sure you get the idea), some of the girls actually said they liked the idea and were going to try it and of course the “better than anyone” group pushed their noses in the air walking away saying more bad words.

One of my friends was showering when all of this happened (she knew I shaved) made one statement that shut up several of the girls… “Why are you even looking down there?”  Let me tell you, everyone got very quiet for a few seconds and some of the girls never said another word.

I was quick to get over the bad reactions by reminding myself I am being me.  I am comfortable with shaving/trimming and I like it.  I am not going to change because of someone’s closed minded attitude.

Now, a lot of girls shave and trim their pubic hair.  Even some of the girls that did the name calling and a few of the high and mighty girls do too.

Just remember, you shave/trim for you.  No one has to like it or accept it but you.  If it breaks friendships, then they weren’t really friends to begin with.  Sorry but that’s the harsh truth.

Me, I say, shave/trim and enjoy it.  Just be you.

L

Nudity At School–Lisa

Ok, so today was a tough day at school.  Word got out that my family and I are nudists.  Now, some of my friends already knew, but the bullies, jocks, princesses, beauty queens and quibs are making such fools of themselves.

The torment, insults, the razing, disgusting looks, the “ew, stay away from me”, name calling, sexual jokes and motions, how dang immature can they really be?

The councilor came running to my aid trying to console me, make sure I was ok, trying to convince me to call my parents and I said no.  I’m not the one who has a problem with my nudity.  It’s not like I go around the school with nothing on.  Although, it would be more comfortable!@!

As I told the councilor, it’s not my fault those kids are insecure with who they are, their bodies, and their minds.  The councilor of course looked shocked (you should have seen the look on her face!!), not knowing what to do, she asked ME what I wanted her to do.  I had a great thought but before I said it, I already knew the councilor could not do it.

My Thought:

Round up all the kids that were giving me a hard time, take them to the gym and….. you guessed it.  Make them strip, stand naked in front of the whole school (for those watching and laugh…. bam! they get to join the naked kids), none of the naked kids are allowed to leave or get dressed until the obvious signs that show they are ok with being naked.

1. Are no longer holding their hands covering their breasts

2. Are no longer cupping their hands between their legs hiding their private parts.

3. Are no longer turning red from embarrassment and are their natural color.

4. Admit to the crowd that being nude really isn’t bad and feels kind of good now that they have experienced it.

Me, of course I knew the councilor couldn’t do it, but it didn’t make her laugh at the suggestion.  She did smile and said she wished there was more she could do.  Me, the smart butt suggested instead of a pajama day, we have a nude day.  She just winked and said her door is always open should I need to talk or if the kids get out of hand and I was not able to handle it anymore.

From a teenage nudist who is dang proud of it! See ya!

L